The Water Cooler – Girl Banned from School for Shaving Head to Support Friend with Cancer

March 25, 2014 · 55 comments

The “Water Cooler” is a feature on Claycord.com where we ask you a question or provide a topic, and you talk about it!

The “Water Cooler” will be up Monday-Friday at noon!

Today’s question:

A 9-year-old Colorado girl who shaved her head to support her friend who has cancer will be allowed back at school after being suspended. She was apparently banned from school because shaving her head violated the school’s dress code.

What’s your opinion on this?

Talk about it….

1 Anon777 March 25, 2014 at 12:26 PM

My opinion is this school is soooo messed up, it’s pathetic!! Looks like it’s probably private so you can’t raise as much hell than if it were a public school!! Still completely wrong for the reason this girl shaved her head.

What happens when kids need their head shaved for lice or for some other medical issue? They just can’t come to school? WTF???

2 There is a school dress code March 25, 2014 at 12:30 PM

prohibiting girls to shave their head? Unless there is some sort of extraordinary crisis resulting from children shaving their heads, I don’t see that the applicability of the rule. School admins can be control freaks, (mostly are just plain freaks).

There are rules to follow, but acceptations can be made. In this case, from what I know about it, this is an acceptation.

3 Nick March 25, 2014 at 12:36 PM

BOYCOTT THAT SCHOOL!!!!

4 Anon March 25, 2014 at 12:41 PM

Thats stupid, somebody arrest the principle. No, really. Thats really dumb, take a kid from school for shaving her head. Thats as dumb as the Walnut Creek police officer that told my friend take off his PRAY FOR JAPAN decal off his car to avoid getting a ticket. Tells me more wveryday how cruel people can be. If someone support something thats for a good cause, let them be. How many people fight day to day with cancer? How many people died when that GiANT wave came in? If someone kicks a student out of school for shaving her head to support cancer paitents, a cop goes and tells somebody to peel the PRAY FOR JAPAN decal sticker off knowning that so many people died in the disasters they faced, you might as well take off SUPPORT OUR TROOPS. See how others feel about that. I dont know what the school or even the police officer was thinking.

5 DMZ March 25, 2014 at 12:48 PM

OMG beyond dumb.
Bless this girl for her amazing support.

6 Anon2000 March 25, 2014 at 12:52 PM

what a brave 9 year old, she should of be awarded not suspended. What a shame people are.

7 Incognito March 25, 2014 at 12:56 PM

This is just another indication of how messed up our world is today…..

8 Momo March 25, 2014 at 12:59 PM

It’s that zero tolerance rule. Stupid rule for stupid administrations. That way they don’t ever have to actually think about a particular situation and how to handle it.

9 Bishop Estates March 25, 2014 at 1:00 PM

I agree with Anon2000 She should have been praised not punished.

10 Malice In Wonderland March 25, 2014 at 1:07 PM

Absolutely absurd…and I gaurantee the school will reverse this decision as soon as the media whips up a frenzy, and rightfully so.

11 Cuzzzzz............... March 25, 2014 at 1:09 PM

I would think the schools in Colorado would have more to worry about than this. Geez it seem like every couple of months there is a “school shooting” or “theatre shooting” or some kind of “community shooting” in Colorado.
This girl did something great and yet a backassward school in Colorado suspended her.

12 Cathy M. March 25, 2014 at 1:18 PM

This girl obviously knew the rules and shaved her head anyway. She needs to be comfortable with the consequences of her actions. A young girl has no business having a shaved head.

13 Excellent March 25, 2014 at 1:26 PM

Love this school. They have just created another person, and group of people for that matter, that will stand up and fight for rights. Idiots are in charge of your children these days. (yes, including some parents)

14 Reality Slap March 25, 2014 at 1:35 PM

Take a step back and look at the entire picture. While I completely side with this little girl and the reason she shaved her head, I can also see the side of the school. When you begin to make exceptions to the dress code for situations such as this, someone somewhere is going to scream discrimination when they want to deviate from the dress code for their own personal reasons. They will claim that their beliefs are just as valid as anyone else’s and if they are not allowed an exception/exemption they will sue. We have a completely sue happy society that will do anything to make a buck. To have a blanket policy on dress codes and not have exceptions alleviates a ton of situations that can arise. The reason that many institutions are this way isn’t that they are Mean and stupid” it’s that they have to deal with people who are willing to scream and run to lawyers the first chance they can.

15 old concord March 25, 2014 at 1:45 PM

Stop legal bullying . Government should not be telling people how they should live .

16 Jess March 25, 2014 at 2:09 PM

The school that did this is a charter school, so they can come up with any crazy policy they want, including no shaved heads for girls. That’s the problem with charter schools – little oversight. There’s nothing to stop administrators and boards of trustees from going rogue. Google Caprock Academy and you’ll find lots of complaints from unhappy parents.

17 Likely not a model student... March 25, 2014 at 2:10 PM

If this were a student who always participated politely and respectfully in class, followed the rules, was kind to all, always did her homework, then likely they would not have suspended or expelled her. They would have told her not to do it again, called her parents, and worked out something quietly and respectfully for all. I am betting she’s not a model student, and is a regular rule-breaker.

18 Elwood March 25, 2014 at 2:13 PM

Do you have to be brain dead to be a school principal or superintendent or is it just very helpful?

19 KJ March 25, 2014 at 2:18 PM

Yet another reason not to move to Colorado (not that I had any plans to do so, of course).

20 MCP March 25, 2014 at 2:30 PM

Along with girls not having any reason to shave their heads, they should always be in skirts down to the ankle, no pants, and blouses the cover from the top of the neck to four inches below the top of the skirt with sleeves that stop no more than one inch from the point the hand connects to the arm.

in all seriousness, Reality Slap summed it up pretty well. Parents, with their my kid is so special they don’t have to follow the rules, have made schools behave the way they do.

21 what_the March 25, 2014 at 2:35 PM

An embarrassment.
I wonder If it was a boy who shaved his head would he have been suspended?

22 fritzer March 25, 2014 at 2:41 PM

There are good things about living in California.

23 just a concordian March 25, 2014 at 2:48 PM

the rules
http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:http://caprockacademy.org/caprock-essentials/dress-code/girls-grade-school-dress-code/

While i think the rules are a little excessive, such as the no bags with characters on them, they do maintain a certain order in the way the school is run.

I fully agree with the suspension. Parents permission for the head shave does not guarantee that the school will see it under the same light. As responsible parents, they should have informed the school ahead of time of their daughter’s intention to shave her head and to their approval of her gesture. The school would have had a few moments to think, then most likely the answer would have been YES. But they chose to disobey the rules, they chose to send their daughter to school in a manner that the school does not permit children to attend, and then when they suffer the consequences of their poorly thought action, they resort to the “scoop up all” media for support.

A few years ago a soldier deployed in Iraq had brought his cell phone with him and made an astounding amount of calls back home, while internationally roaming. Knowing full well what he had signed up for, knowing that international roaming back then required an additional credit check on top of the regular one to get the phone, he chose to make several thousands of dollars worth of calls to his family. He then chose to refuse to pay the bill in “total astonishment” of the massive amount, claiming “he didn’t know, and T-mobile should not charge these huge rates to someone fighting for his country.”

Just like this school, Tmobile caved as well.

I respect this little girl for doing what she did. It is absolutely amazing, thoughtful and i am sure she is a delight of a human being.

I do not support the way her parents went by it.

Too many things in this country seem to be up for debate, regardless of the rules and regulations in place. If Mcdonalds tells me “no shoes no shirt no service” I have a choice. I can go to BK, Wendy’s, the food truck or at the hot dog stand. I don’t have to eat at McDonalds. They don’t owe me a sandwich! They don’t owe me an explanation as to how I should look when I walk into THEIR property. It’s their right to refuse service and it’s their duty to exercise that right. Just like I expect my guests to behave a certain way when they come to my house.

They disrespected the school rules, and while a worthy cause, they should have asked before they acted!

24 funny man March 25, 2014 at 2:48 PM

why is common sense such a rare commodity nowadays

25 Dear poster 4 March 25, 2014 at 2:52 PM

I can sympathize with your friend who was forced to take the Pray for Japan sign off of their car. We were In church and a Walnut Creek Police came in and seized our Bibles and replaced them with vehicle codes and made us all swear not to speed and then they put tracking devices in our teeth , too .
Did they tell you , number 4 that the voices weren’t real? That what they told me. But that’s sooo Walnut Creek Police

Remember the principal is your pal . It’s not principle.

26 @reality slap March 25, 2014 at 3:01 PM

What kind of a public school includes “girls may not have shaved heads” in their dress code? What business is it of the school if a student has a shaved head? It’s up to the parents of each child to decide what is acceptable for their child’s hair. Unless the kid shaved a profanity onto their head, i don’t see how it interfered with the educational mission of the school. A bunch of ridiculous busybodies run that school.

27 CoCoOld March 25, 2014 at 3:11 PM

Hey Cathy M! You’re a troll. The little girl was sporting a shaved head to support a friend who has cancer! Didn’t you notice the Claycord article a few days ago about the police officer who has cancer? Or did I miss your snarky comment to that article?

28 Mr. Pink March 25, 2014 at 3:20 PM

Ridiculous. How do you punish a child for showing solidarity to a sick friend? Do people not think before they mete out punishments?

29 Reality Slap March 25, 2014 at 3:35 PM

#26

It’s not a public school, it’s a charter school that these parents choose to send their daughter to, and therefore made the decision in sending the daughter to that school to follow the rules established by the school. Love the way people have fallen to the “victim” role as an excuse when they are called up for their actions. There are rarely “victims” in this society most are people who have made poor choices who don’t have the moral backbone to be responsible for those choices and face consequences without whining. I’m quite sure that the charter school has given every parent or guardian a copy of the dress code, if the parents didn’t read it then it ‘s their problem not the schools.

30 Claycordian March 25, 2014 at 3:56 PM

She violated a dress code she agreed to abide by as part of being a student at the school? Nuts to her, however honorable the intention was.

31 Find Waldo March 25, 2014 at 4:20 PM

The school needs to be sued. The brown shirts in charge there and at other schools need to be financially slapped into place. “safety, uniformity, and a non-distracting environment for the school’s students.” Whatever… Kids need to be taught that it’s ok to be different. Shaving your head is not the same and wearing a short dress while going commando.

32 @reality slap March 25, 2014 at 4:40 PM

Reality Slap,

A charter school is a public school, paid for with tax dollars, just like every other public school. Shame on the morons running the school for writing such a ridiculous rule into the dress code and not having the common sense to see that they were wrong. They could have used it as a teachable moment to show that sometimes adults can be wrong when they make the rules, or that common sense exceptions can be made, or that empathy for others is a good thing that should be celebrated instead of punished, or they could have let the little girl explain to her class about the side effects of chemotherapy. There are a lot of smart ways the school could have handled it. But they chose the stupidest way possible: You violated the dress code so you’re outta here. Even little kids have a basic sense of right and wrong. They’ll know that the school principal was wrong. Perfect way to get kids to disrespect authority.

33 TinFoiler March 25, 2014 at 5:06 PM

WORSHIP CANCER?!?! If you’re giving to Any of the “cancer charities” you are throwing your money away.
She should have wore a Run from the Cure shirt instead and spread the word, there’s Already and has been a cure for Cancer for many years.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0psJhQHk_GI

34 Jeff March 25, 2014 at 5:44 PM

Lol the school administrators have been smoking too much pot. Ridiculous and reminds me of California politicians

35 Dorothy March 25, 2014 at 5:47 PM

So it would have been okay to shave her head if she had lice but not okay for friendship? Brave girl and I hope this doesn’t stop her from doing what she sees as the right thing in the future.

36 Reality Slap March 25, 2014 at 6:09 PM

#32

The Charter School is a school CHOOSEN by the parents, not mandated by the school district for the child to attend. If, as a parent, you choose to read the rules of the school and then question them only when you “have a problem” arise, the problem is yours to deal with. As for teaching children to respect authority, it is apparent that there is a grave lack of respect for authority today based on years of people thinking they are above the laws and rules, that they and their children’s “rights” outweigh the stated statutes; it has fostered an entitlement mentality that is far from creating a healthy society.

37 claycordian March 25, 2014 at 6:19 PM

Claycordian (#30) – I have been using the Claycordian moniker for several years. If you want to take it over, you can, but the gracious thing to do would be to come up with another name for this blog.

Signed,

The REAL Claycordian

38 Funnyclown March 25, 2014 at 6:40 PM

They have a big gang problem, thats why shaved heads aree banned on school grounds.

39 Public School System Sucks! March 25, 2014 at 6:47 PM

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40 Mark March 25, 2014 at 6:47 PM

Helps keep lice in check.

41 Antler March 25, 2014 at 6:49 PM

I like the dress code. I also like the reason for which the student decided to break the dress code. Do we have any information as to whether the girl’s parents went with her to the principal’s office that morning to present written documentation of WHY she deliberately violated the rules to which she had previously agreed?

42 Cat Wrangler March 25, 2014 at 7:47 PM

A school too rigid in its enforcement of its rules is only teaching half the lesson. If we were a society of rule-keepers/enforcers, America would still be a colony and our Supreme Court would be obsolete. Grace in lieu of enforcement is what was called for in this case of seeking a greater cause than would be allowed by adhering to the rule.

The principal forgot the principle – a rule broken in an effort to lift another up is an ideal more honorable than rule enforcement which keeps status quo. What this young girl did was a beautiful way to honor her friend in her illness and show solidarity with her in the life and death struggle her friend is fighting with cancer and its treatment.

So, shame, shame, shame on all of those who are calling for the rule to be kept because it is a rule. Damn the rule and help the child!

43 BugsintheBeards March 25, 2014 at 8:09 PM

UGH! Poor child has to go through this.

44 Kellyanne March 25, 2014 at 8:09 PM

Is it ok to smoke weed at the schools? ( just asking)

45 Walnut Creek Resident March 25, 2014 at 8:27 PM

The Charter school needs to get some training on social responsibly! I am very proud of the young girl and very ashamed of that stupid school.

46 DREED March 25, 2014 at 8:31 PM

What is more appalling is that the school confiscated the 9 year olds medical marijuana brownie that was packed in her lunch.

47 Art March 25, 2014 at 9:26 PM

She didn’t shave her head she just cut her hair short.
This isn’t a school its a cult.
Religion is bad news its 2014 the world isn’t flat
and fire isn’t magic.
People say things back then most likely because that ate
something that to day is call Psychedelic.
Not to hard to imagine a burning bush on shrooms or talking animals.

48 caskydiver March 25, 2014 at 10:38 PM

The school policy needs to be reviewed and revised appropriately. Kudos to the girl for not letting nonsensical rules stop her from showing solidarity with her seriously ill friend.

49 T March 26, 2014 at 6:34 AM

School place bullying

50 MyOpinion March 26, 2014 at 7:32 AM

My opinion that the school’s policy is weird.

51 Nom de Plume March 26, 2014 at 11:08 AM

Ridiculous. The fact she did that to support her friend is amazing and should be recognized in a good way, not punished.

Also, having a dress code about hair is pretty dumb as that is one way kids can express themselves without hurting anyone.

52 Hessianerd March 26, 2014 at 11:21 AM

#8 hit the nail on the head.
Every time you see some bone headed headline like this it is the direct result of a “Zero Tolerance Policy”, which translates to a “administrators get to assuage any culpability and avoid making any decisions, policy”. Yet the admins get all the money.

53 Permanent Vacation With Nsps March 26, 2014 at 12:58 PM

You think this is bad? My
sister was sent home from
Clayton Valley High School
in the sixties for wearing
sandals to school. Feet
were considered too sexy
for high school students
to display, I guess? My
how times change.

54 Dutch March 26, 2014 at 2:22 PM

It’s ridiculous, a dress code violation for having a shaved head. Bureaucrats are the most anal retentive idiots in the world.

55 Barbie Dahl March 26, 2014 at 9:50 PM

I got banned from school just for getting a bikini wax. Probably wouldn’t have been such a big deal if I just hadn’t showed everybody.

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