The Water Cooler – Aggressive Panhandling

September 12, 2013 12:00 pm · 83 comments

The “Water Cooler” is a feature on Claycord.com where we ask you a question or provide a topic, and you talk about it!

The “Water Cooler” will be up Monday-Friday in the noon hour.

Have you ever been approached by an aggressive panhandler, and felt like you had to give them money because you felt threatened in some way?

Talk about it….

{ 83 comments }

1 Sacto Rob September 12, 2013 at 12:01 PM

I’ve been approached several times by aggresive panhandlers. No way do I give them a dime; it only encourages more such behavior. Avoid eye-contact and walk away.

2 The Closer September 12, 2013 at 12:05 PM

Not since the seventh grade.

3 slim September 12, 2013 at 12:12 PM

#1 aviod eye contact… your asking for trouble.. look at them right in the eye and say no not today and keep your eyes on them untill your a safe distance away

4 babytruck September 12, 2013 at 12:17 PM

This was a while ago but I had gone into a place to get an application for work. I always get two just in case I messed one up writing in pen. I was walking through the parking lot to get to my car when I was stopped by a guy asking for money to buy food. He came from an area where there were a few of his friends sitting around smoking and chatting, another was approaching another person. I looked at his clothing, and noticed that he had on a clean North Face Jacket, some newer model Nike shoes (the ones my friend just bought), and clean jeans. I told him that I’d give him what I have, I’m here to pick up an application because I myself was in search of a job. So I pulled out two dollars and handed it to him. He got upset and moving closer to me, told me he saw the five dollar bill in there and why can’t he have that, because two dollars isn’t going to buy him a meal, “What are you, stupid or something? No wonder you don’t have a job!”

So in a harsh voice, I held out that application to him and told him that he can get a job himself instead of asking other people for money. He just slapped it out of my hand.

At that, I quickly turned away to leave. I heard his buddies laughing as I hurriedly went to my car.

5 Mike September 12, 2013 at 12:17 PM

I was recently approached by a man on main street on WC. I wouldn’t call him aggressive but he definitely got right up in my face and seemed like he could easily get aggressive; I probably would have given him some change anyway, but I definitely felt like the easiest way to avoid any tension would be to give him some change.

The most disappointing part of this story (and the reason why I wanted to share it) was that I reached into my pocket and gave him the contents, which was fifty cents. He looked at it in disgust and literally threw it down into the street! I swear I am not making this up. I’m not acting like fifty cents is going to change anyone’s life but if you are out on the street bothering people for free money I think you should keep whatever you get. If a few people give you half a buck, pretty soon you can buy some food.

I can’t conclude anything about this particular guy’s state of mind, but I think he’s just an a-hole, but in general I have compassion for people on the street, even those that aren’t so nice, because many of them are mentally ill and/or have absolutely no support system to help them function. But watching someone throw away the money I gave them was a new one on me.

6 Mac September 12, 2013 at 12:19 PM

No, they pretty much can see by the look in my eyes, that i`m not someone who will give them a dime.
So i have to give them a little credit, they are smart enough to figure that out quickly.

I feel sorry for the ones with mental problems.
But there are a large number of them that are just plain lazy and would rather drink and do drugs instead of cleaning up and doing what is right.

For those lazy ones, i have nothing to give (never will)

7 Need Crank Please Help ! September 12, 2013 at 12:21 PM

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8 The Mamba September 12, 2013 at 12:22 PM

I work in SF and get approached by aggressive panhandlers all the time. I don’t pay people to stand around though.

9 Connie Dobbs September 12, 2013 at 12:24 PM

Just the State.

10 Cap'n Nick September 12, 2013 at 12:25 PM

Back when I was a bartender in S.F., I was out front having a smoke and I had a guy actually try to take a swing at me when I wouldn’t give him anything. I hit him in the throat, put out my cig and walked back inside. Problem solved.

11 concord resident September 12, 2013 at 12:26 PM

I almost got into a fight with a panhandler in downtown Concord once because he wouldn’t let up. I also had a bunch of bums threaten me with violence when I yelled at them for drinking on the doorstep of my apartment complex. Unfortunately the cops just think it’s hilarious and say “they’re not hurting anyone.”

The stupid thing is that I’ve had friends arrested for public intoxication for doing the responsible thing and WALKING home from Vinnie’s… apparently being drunk in public is just fine if you’re homeless, but if you’re a responsible citizen it’s jail time for you… our PD is so corrupt we need to fire all of them and start over…

12 Elawise September 12, 2013 at 12:27 PM

I do NOT give to aggressive panhandlers. I have seen panhandlers that threaten your life for a dollar. A lot of people give to these type of panhandlers-I ignore them and walk away.

13 babytruck September 12, 2013 at 12:42 PM

Whoops. Looking over my own post it seems like it was me who said to the guy “What are you stupid or something…” It was him that said to me. Just wanted to be more clear.

14 Triple Canopy September 12, 2013 at 12:45 PM

Hell no.

NEVER GIVE MONEY TO BEGGARS AND VAGRANTS.

15 Enfield303 September 12, 2013 at 12:55 PM

I’m ugly enough that they don’t bother me.

16 Neighbor September 12, 2013 at 12:56 PM

I don’t give any panhandlers any money whether aggressive or nice. I work hard for what little money I earn and I can’t be giving it away. Pissed me off this morning someone had to give a bum money and food on the freeway on ramp this a.m. These bums are there everyday, they switch out with each other and hang out behind the Bonfaire market drinking. This is N. Concord by the 242 Solano on/off ramp. If you continue to give them money they will continue to hang out and they get more and more aggressive. I don’t feel sorry for any of them.

17 Broke September 12, 2013 at 1:01 PM

Do you mean like if I refuse to vote for ever-increasing taxes (which support lazy a$$es and overpaid public $ervants and their lavish pensions) our aggressive government panhandler$ will threaten to throw me in jail?

18 Nancy non PC and Proud of it September 12, 2013 at 1:04 PM

These people are psychotic blights where ever they roam. I stepped over many on my walk to work every day in SF and their messes. I work too hard for my money to give it to them-Heck, most times I am certain they have more cash on them than I do~! Don’t make eye contact, don’t speak to them, BUT do be alert and do be careful because you never know whats going on with them. I hate to see them in our Claycord area but it is a sign of the times. I still don’t give them the time of day. 98% Druggies and bums and a drain on our civic resources and energy!

19 Dorothy September 12, 2013 at 1:05 PM

I had a black man try to panhandle money and I told him no. He started in about discrimination saying because he was black I wouldn’t give him money. That made me mad and I tore into him about that if he wanted to know about discrimination he should try being a woman and if he really wanted to know about discrimination he should try being a black woman! By the time I was done he was backing off begging for peace.

20 Felino September 12, 2013 at 1:08 PM

I’m like the ‘Most Interesting Man in the World’, the panhandlers voluntarily offer me money!!

21 Incognito September 12, 2013 at 1:19 PM

Years ago I was coming out of a Longs Drug Store… a female panhandler aggressively asked me if I had any “extra money”. I kept walking, did not make eye contact, and ignored her. When I ignored her, she started spouting off at the mouth at me. By the way, I am female. I was immediately taken back at her verbal abuse because I chose to ignore her plight. I figured I could further ignore her and keep walking to my car, or I could say something back at her after her abusive comment. I turned and confronted her and pretty much told her that for all she knew I may be in need of money myself, could have no job, etc. Surprisingly, she apologized, shut up and walked away.

On this note, I’d like to add it would be very refreshing to be able to go to the grocery store, or the pharmacy without being confronted going into the store and coming out by every organization or person who is looking for money.

22 Craig September 12, 2013 at 1:21 PM

I ignore panhandlers, aggressive or not. If I accidently make eye contact, and they ask, I politely decline.

Don’t ever be rude. You’re asking for trouble. It’s a lose/lose situation.

23 GT September 12, 2013 at 1:26 PM

NO NO No
It only makes them more aggressive

24 ThereISaidIt September 12, 2013 at 1:27 PM

Had a young ‘Occupy’ type approach me begging. I politely told him no and walked past him. He caught up to me and pulled my around by my shoulder and he said ‘I don’t think you heard me, I need money for food and you are going to give it to me’. Told him to hold on, reached into my bag and sprayed him in the face with pepper spray. Emptied the entire can on him while yelling ‘Yes I heard you and I said NO! NO means NO! You got that?’ I’d like to think that scuzbag never ever did that again.

25 dilligafman September 12, 2013 at 1:28 PM

they ask for “spare change”, i tell them i worked for it and ill spend it!

26 Random Task September 12, 2013 at 1:29 PM

yes the dem bleeding hearts would have you believe that you need to support these jimbronies because it is the right thing to do …..get em on their feet so they can vote dem of course …..fact is everytime this comes up I ask the bleeding hearts to step up and make a bum sanctuary on their lawn and show us all how it is done …..none yet has even bothered to respond…. since they only jest their words to those they mean to rule

27 Elwood September 12, 2013 at 1:34 PM

You mean like the BART employees?

28 old concord September 12, 2013 at 1:36 PM

no

29 Random Task September 12, 2013 at 1:39 PM

and what does ” sign of the times ” mean anyways …..that we need to have bummage to make the world go round …….or that the state is so messed up that this is what we get …….or that it is a natural cycle …I mean the birds have bums ” seagulls ” why should not the humans have scavengers that prey on sick and dying…or women and children …….why should someone feel threatened by a person who is trying to take their money ………THE DEMS DO IT EVERY DAY IN THIS STATE ……AND NO ONE IS TRYING TO CHANGE THAT …..fact people are told to deal with it because the ones you voted for have not the will or even the nose to deal with it ….they will wait till some form of over paid panel or board or special interest raises their hand and takes the lead and then jump on board and shout they are in it as well …….sad case is this has been the norm for years bout 40 years and with dem control of this state we are broke…. misguided….corrupt……over run…….and out of clues to better our once great state ….this state is becoming a wasted spot on the map as again the occupants will go north for better pay and or somewhere else to support them as they abuse another system to the point of abandonment

30 Anon September 12, 2013 at 1:39 PM

Flash : Senator DeSaulnier is introducing legislation requiring panhandlers demand no more then 1% of monthly income from citizens.

31 Nicole September 12, 2013 at 1:39 PM

When we lived in San Diego the homeless would ask. But they were never aggressive about it, and they accepted no for an answer.

Even though I didn’t owe them an explanation, I always told men and women both I couldn’t afford it because I was raising children. And I was always nice about it. There’s no reason to be rude, even if they annoy you.

32 Random Task September 12, 2013 at 1:40 PM

The bummage will continue until …………? just like I thought …no answers

33 Bubba September 12, 2013 at 1:41 PM

I scream in their face, NO! GET AWAY FROM ME!
They think I am crazier than they are.
Try to attract as much attention as you can.

34 Random Task September 12, 2013 at 1:42 PM

jobs no bums do not want to work ….housing …really they tried that …….free needles ….lol…….free booze as long as they stick to the out of sight out of mind mentality ……you be the judge ……only takes one good idea to spark a change for the better ……..

35 Sacto Rob September 12, 2013 at 1:46 PM

Slim @#3: I didn’t say to close your eyes. I said to avoid eye contact. I’m annoyed by someone who even politely begs, but I’ll at least respect such a person by looking them in the eye and acknowledging their existence. But those who get aggresive don’t deserve to be treated with respect, and its been my experience that it’s usually dangerous to engage with agressive street people in any way. (Don’t expect irrational people to act rationally.) Making eye contact only encourages more interaction.

36 Bubba September 12, 2013 at 2:07 PM

Scream and wave your arms, jump up and down, try to make yourself larger.
As if you are trying to scare away a wild animal.

37 JJ2 September 12, 2013 at 2:19 PM

I look them in the eye and and say: “No, thank you.”
They are usually stumped. But, they remember me and leave me be afterwards.
Giving cash only makes you codependent to their current chemical addiction.
You may be morally responsible for their fatal overdose….

38 CALI September 12, 2013 at 2:29 PM

For a while there when someone asked me, “can you spare any change?” My reply was, “No, can you? ” Please, COME ON, I need some money.” They get really confused & will definately leave you alone.

39 Julie September 12, 2013 at 2:53 PM

Random Task is on a role…….

I don’t give them money, but I’m rarely asked. I guess they’re not around the same places I am, or I just don’t make eye contact. Probably both.

On the rare occasions I’m asked, I just shake my head no, and always with a smile. It’s never been a problem.

40 Bishop Estates September 12, 2013 at 2:56 PM

@ Dorothy… I like your style!

@24 I would have flipped out if someone grabbed my shoulder.Good for you!

41 Chalkboy8 September 12, 2013 at 3:15 PM

When anybody asks me for money, I usually say “No thank you.” politely and walk away. It puzzles them.

Once in Berkeley an able bodied teenager was asking for money to buy Cannibas. I said, that how was I to know if I gave him money he would not buy Cannibas and purchase food instead. It got a laugh.

42 Mimi (original) September 12, 2013 at 3:25 PM

I usually just say, “I’m sorry, not today.” and walk away. Of course I do this with all the “sign my petition” folks as well!

43 Jokes on U September 12, 2013 at 3:31 PM

I remember one day my husband and I were walking out of a store. Some bum asked us for “spare change”. My husband stopped to talk to him and dropped quarter in his cup. I can’t remember my husbands exact words (it was a long time ago) but he said something like “Since I did a favor for you can you do me a favor? I need some pocket change” LOL the guy reached in his cup and gave my husband $0.65!

44 Antler September 12, 2013 at 3:38 PM

Bubba at #33 and #36 ~ ~ ~ You have me laughing aloud here! :-)

Usually the negative head-shake and “No, not today” works just fine. But if they’re outside a store and I’m feeling like being playful, my routine is to do my very best impression of Jessica Tandy in “Driving Miss Daisy” shuffling INTO the store, and then I morph into “Katharine Hepburn being a tough cookie” when I leave by striding out through a different door.

One of my friends keeps walking but mutters under her breath to them, “Hey, I just saw a person in there calling 911 to get the police to come pick you up.” ….keeps right on walking…..says usually by the time she gets 75 feet away, they’re not in sight.

Remember, once a woman gets out into the parking lot, etc., she should NEVER appear weak and docile. Several physicians have told me that the more times elderly people remind themselves to walk the way they did when they were 20, the better they CAN move as though they were 20 again! Don’t look like a victim!!!

45 Cindy September 12, 2013 at 3:44 PM

I am opposed to this plan. There are not enough shelter beds. If there were already adequate services in place, then you could say they have to go take advantage of the services that are provided. But since we have not provided adequate services, what do you expect the homeless to do? Starve? Die?

How can they get a job? Have you ever spoken with them? They are mostly so mentally ill that they could never work.

The homeless are the weakest citizens among our community. We should be talking about ways in which we can help them. Instead, you are talking about ways we can make their already difficult existence even more difficult.

Take some of your comments and apply to some other group, then you can hear how predjudiced your remarks sound.

You say, “I don’t want to see them, send them to another town, etc”. Apply that to some ethnic group and you can hear what a bigot you sound like.

People who are mentally ill need help. They need assistance, they need services. When these services do not exist. Or they are not adequate to meet the needs, the homeless will turn to panhandling.

I am so ashamed of my community after reading most of your comments.

46 Connie Dobbs September 12, 2013 at 4:05 PM

What do you want us to do, then, Cindy?

47 Cap'n Nick September 12, 2013 at 4:16 PM

Oh boy. Cindy, just equated people from other ethnic groups with beggars and vagabonds. This should go over well. Let the games begin.

48 Tucker September 12, 2013 at 4:27 PM

Cindy is right, what does it really hurt for many of us to give a little pocket change? How many times have you realistically been approached anyways? You have no idea what kind of life these people have endured, many of them not wanted at birth and raised by drug, alcohol and physically abusive caretakers who never cared about them at all. Show a little compassion people for human life. Most of these people are homeless and mentally challenged and abandoned by family. They are happy if you give them a dime and mostly just want to be acknowledged with a friendly smile or glance. That alone can make their day. What harm does it do to any of us to make another person smile? Change your heart, your mind and your selfish ways.

49 Incognito September 12, 2013 at 4:28 PM

Cindy,
Perhaps you should take a few them in under your roof….
Just a suggestion.

50 chef September 12, 2013 at 4:30 PM

I think Cindy just volunteered her home as a shelter! Thanks Cindy, and if this is not what you meant than F OFF.

51 anonanonagain September 12, 2013 at 4:32 PM

Many times. In fact in incident was when my husband and I were in the city for a work party. We parked our car and were immediately approached by a man who had a 2 x 4 in his hand and he wanted money. We offered him our leftovers from the restaurant we ate at.He grumbled he didn’t want the food. He swore at us. When we returned to our car there was the 2×4 and a huge dent on the roof as if he threw it in a rage…….

52 Shulla September 12, 2013 at 4:33 PM

I was in SF for a conference and walking down the sidewalk. A guy jumped in front of me a rattled a styrofoam cup of change 1 inch from my nose. I said, “Oh, no Thank You” which left him speechless. This was 10 yrs. ago. I think I would get a different reaction these days. Gotta get me a can of pepper spray.

53 Connie Dobbs September 12, 2013 at 4:38 PM

Aw, Tucker thinks a friendly glance and a dime are all some people rate. You have no idea what kind of life any of us have endured, pumpkin, and the vast majority of us are self-feeders.

54 Random Task September 12, 2013 at 4:38 PM

oh and the bleeding hearts rear their head …..again take em to your house or pay more for their care I have had it as well as others obviously …..SO YOU THINK WE ALL WAKE UP OUR BILLS ARE PAID THE KIDS ARE AT SCHOOL AFTER BEING FED AND CHANGED AND THE LAWN IS MOWED AND CARPET IS VACUUMED …TAXES PAID MORTGAGE PAID OH KID WANTS TO GO TO COLLEGE NP THAT IS TAKEN CARE OF ……..wake up we have things to deal with as well and more of em if in fact they are ill as you say then instead of telling us we are bashers and inhuman ….why don’t you take the action and tell us what to do with em …tell us where they should go ……or how they should be taken care of …tell us to pay even more money to support more people who do nothing but abuse the system ….tell us to be the better and cough up more money ….and of course all that can happen when it takes 4 panels and 5 councils to come up with a …..hey keep the bums from asking for money at the ATM machine the waste and back scratching that this state and city do is appalling …….a 200k fence when the city is in debt is ridiculous ….fires all over and stations are closed or understaffed …….this state and city only do one thing at a time and that “thing” is who ever gives em the most money to do it ……..CORRUPTION LEADS TO BUMS AND 200K FENCES ……WELL AHEAD OF THE PACE THIS CITY IS…HMMMMM

55 Cowellian September 12, 2013 at 4:43 PM

And Cindy, your community is ashamed of people who enable drug abuse and public drunkenness.

56 Sheila September 12, 2013 at 5:01 PM

Martinez tried this, and it didn’t pass. It was ruled unlawful, or unconstitutional, or something to that effect.

People aren’t going to stop begging, whether there is an ordinance in place or not.

If fined, they won’t pay it, because they probably don’t have it.

If you want to give people money, then do so.

If you don’t want to give, and most people don’t, then don’t.

It’s pretty simple……

57 ChampagneKitty September 12, 2013 at 5:09 PM

I am sorry Cindy and Tucker, but I cannot agree with you. We should NOT be giving money to the homeless and/or beggars. Many of them will only use it to buy drugs, alcohol, and tobacco. Giving them money will not help them out of their situations. The city of Concord already has a program in place called Change 4 Real Change. Here is the link: http://www.change4realchange.org. There are designated locations where you can donate money. There are also ticket books you can purchase that are vouchers for things like free rides to a shelter, a free meal, and access to services. When panhandlers ask for money, you can give them a voucher. Obviously, many of them will not appreciate it. They just want money so they can continue doing what they’re doing. But if enough of us keep doing this, they will either leave, or give up and accept the services.

58 Tucker September 12, 2013 at 5:19 PM

Hey Connie Lingus, my real name is not Tucker, I’m a well respected business owner with 60+ employees whom I treat well, I work full time plus, pay my way and plenty of taxes too, however, I see nothing wrong with helping out those less fortunate with some spare change and other charities in which i donate to throughout the year. It makes me happy. May I ask, are you happy? You sound bitter. Get a job yourself.

59 Marcia September 12, 2013 at 5:22 PM

I get accosted at Safeway on Willow Pass almost every time I go there. Rather than giving them money, if I can afford it, I ask if they are hungry and offer to buy them a sandwich at the deli. So far not one person has taken my offer. They only want cash.

60 Atticus Thraxx September 12, 2013 at 5:27 PM

I like to be generous and giving away things I don’t need or cherish feels good. But you get demanding about it or your blasted out of your mind, I won’t help you. And I don’t think a law is gonna have much impact like Sheila says.

61 Neighbor September 12, 2013 at 5:29 PM

I give to those in need, I donate to the Red Cross and to animal organizations. I do not however support those on the street corner especially in my neighborhood. You give them your spare change and next you see them on the 242 off ramp behind Bonfare Market drinking it up with their buddies.

62 Atticus Thraxx September 12, 2013 at 5:31 PM

Oh did you see what he did there Connie? Clever lad, our Tucker. A wordsmith with a heart. I’ll be coming back to see how this one goes. ;)

63 @Random Task September 12, 2013 at 5:37 PM

Is there anything you can’t complain about? Or actually have something positive to add that might help?

@Tucker, Connie is just a smart ass, ignore her. Wait she might be related to Random Task!!!!!

64 Connie Dobbs September 12, 2013 at 5:47 PM

It’s just strangers you treat badly. Or women. Got it.

65 Cindy September 12, 2013 at 6:03 PM

Capt n nick, Beggars and vagabonds? The mentally ill are disabled, which is a class if people who are supposed to be legally protected from discrimination just like ethnic groups and minorities. When you call them names and degrade them you are exposing your prejudice which is not very attractive, And honestly is against the law. It is hate speech and bullying. But I suppose the mentally ill are not able to stick up for themselves and therefore you don’t have any problem calling them names and degrading them.

For everyone’s information I Have taken in homeless folks many times. Like Tucker, I also am a respected business person who has worked hard all my life. I am not under any illusion that everyone deserves a free ride.

In this community we take our homeless pets to shelters but we leave our homeless human beings to starve and die on the streets. These people are clearly NOT able to take care of themselves. As a society, we need more shelters and soup kitchens and day programs for the homeless. Passing laws to outlaw a social class is illegal.

66 Diana Sottana September 12, 2013 at 6:34 PM

No. Not at all. Most homeless, starving, out of work people are so ashamed of their circumstances that they cannot look at me. Usually they speak lower than a whisper and ask if I can spare any change. I always give. But for the grace of God, it could be me. Did Jesus ban the poor? Or did he say they would inherit the Kingdom of Heaven?

67 Cowellian September 12, 2013 at 6:36 PM

Oh Boy! We’re playing games with names? I’ll play, too!

OK, Mother Tucker, you don’t get to come around and tell us how respected you are. We’ll decide that for ourselves. And so far, you don’t have much going for you.

68 Cowellian September 12, 2013 at 6:53 PM

Cindy@65 said:

As a society, we need more shelters and soup kitchens and day programs for the homeless

Then donate money to the people who provide shelter and food to the poor, instead of making the problem worse by giving money to people who will spend it on more drugs and alcohol.

69 Connie Dobbs September 12, 2013 at 6:53 PM

He’s compassionate, too, Cowellian. You forgot to mention his compassion.

70 Just Sayn September 12, 2013 at 7:18 PM

All the loonies are out tonight, sheeeeesh!

71 Connie Dobbs September 12, 2013 at 7:36 PM

Also, grace, Tucker. You’re just oozing with grace. I’m sure we used to be married. Remember, you swore you couldn’t live without me….

72 Derps September 12, 2013 at 8:38 PM

I throw pennies at the panhandlers and laugh

73 Sold September 12, 2013 at 8:38 PM

The people who are supposedly collecting for some drug/alcohol rehabilitation are annoying. My friend worked at Kmart in PH before it closed down and she said there was one of those sitting out front all day and at the end of the day he came in and bought a bunch of stuff and bragged about how much money he made. I just don’t trust them, anybody can set up a snack table and say they are collecting for some drug house. If you had a website where I could read up on it and donate directly it would be more professional.

74 Lorelei September 12, 2013 at 8:51 PM

Hey! I’d like to play around, drinking with my buddies all day and night, but I choose not to, for about 1,000,000 reasons….It’s more about self-respect than anything else. I’ve faced some TERRIBLE times, but I’ve never given up and worked like a dog for everything I’ve got. It’s sad when you don’t have anyone to help you in this life, but you can still hold your head up and keep trying……………

75 Mitch September 12, 2013 at 8:59 PM

I think Sheila said it best. Will an ordinance do any good?

And if you want to give, go for it. It’s your money.

And for the rest of us who have NO DESIRE to give these people any money because it will be spent on alcohol, drugs and smokes, forget it!

But I am nice about when I tell people no.

But I do give to worthy organizations regularly. Especially the food bank.

76 Angelica September 12, 2013 at 9:46 PM

@ Sold–#73

The organization you’re referring to in front of K-Mart (PH) is Building a Solid Foundation from Oakland.

They’re everywhere, especially the 99 cent store (Clayton/Bailey Rd.) And they’re legitimate. I got so sick of them. I checked them out with the IRS. They’re legit. They have seven organizations from San Diego to Oakland, and they’ve been in business since 2003.

They receive no state or Federal funding, which is why they irritate the hell out of the general public. You don’t give, they don’t operate!!!

Their website is Buildingasolidfoundation.org. The organization is run by Rodney Nolen.

77 Anon September 12, 2013 at 9:59 PM

Atticus: The store owner can give permission to the scouts,etc.

78 tony September 13, 2013 at 3:28 AM

No dice. I gave up giving people money after being lied to, cheated, given fake sob stories, etc. The one that irritated e the most was a young kid at a gas station in Concord who said he was trying to get to Oakland but his car ran out of gas and his gf was pregnant. She waved from the car. I felt bad and gave him a twenty. A week later, I was wearing my civvy clothes and was approached by the same guy (apparently he didn’t recognize me) and told me the same freaking sob story. I cut him off before he said he needed to go to Oakland and said “You been here a week? You STILL haven’t made it to Oakland?!?”, He turned around quickly and raced off…Never again. I drive a 1998 Benz so this attracts a lot of panhandlers at gas stations. Some get irritated and remark “Well you drive a Benz and don’t have any change? I answer with “do you know how much It took me to SAVE UP to buy this fifteen year old car, working two jobs?” They shut up after that.

79 DD September 13, 2013 at 7:10 AM

My Wife and I treated ourselves to a stay at a nice Hotel in San Francisco a few years. One morning we were out front waiting for our car when a beggar approached us and demanded money. The Hotel security guy saw this and gave him an old school “Bums Rush”

I wanted to offer the security guy money

80 Palermo September 13, 2013 at 9:03 AM

I worked in the Tenderloin for decades, got hassled many times every single day. I finally figured out if I saw them approaching the best thing to do was to scrunch up my face and start muttering to myself. They would see that and veer away, it worked every time. They could recognize another person off their rocker I guess. What always gets me is the people who apologize when they don’t give them money, why are you apologizing, you earned that money and don’t have to explain why you don’t give it all away.

81 Dave September 13, 2013 at 3:03 PM

I always say sorry I don’t carry any cash on me. Seems to work every time.

82 Kevin Mackay September 14, 2013 at 2:50 AM

I have been approached by aggressive panhandlers on several occasions. I have always said no then got away from them quickly and called the police.

83 Jamie Terelin September 14, 2013 at 11:19 AM

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