UPDATE: Suspected Attempted Suicide in the Clayton Valley Shopping Center

January 8, 2013 · 47 comments

A man possibly shot himself in the head just afer 3am in the Clayton Valley Shopping Center in Concord, according to police.

The man was still alive when he was transported to the hospital. It is unknown if he passed away.

It has not been confirmed that he shot himself, but a gun was found near the man’s body. Police are still investigating.

Police have a section of the center near Peet’s Coffee blocked off, so use caution if you’re in the area.

UPDATE: The case is being investigated as a suicide. The man who shot himself has passed away. We will not be releasing his identity.

R.I.P.

1 SC January 8, 2013 at 7:33 AM

Very sad to hear…. so many people end their own lives this way and don’t get help. To everyone out there – pay attention to the people around you – ask how they are doing and if you are concerned about someone, get help for them!

RIP.

2 Why January 8, 2013 at 7:37 AM

How many people know warning signs to look for?
What resources are available and how do you get ahold of them in our area?
Everyone has heard about gun control, yet hear Nothing about mental health.
Why does this society regard asking for help as weakness?
When pain of Today is greater than the pain of tomorrow is when things happen.

3 Stacy January 8, 2013 at 7:53 AM

Omg please tell me who the man is. I got a message this morning from my brothers friend saying he was messageing her saying he was going to kill his self. I can’t get ahold of him either. Now I’m freaking out!

4 karebear January 8, 2013 at 7:59 AM

Omg any names

5 Anonymous January 8, 2013 at 8:09 AM

Very as to hear someone felt this was the best outcome possible. Further dismayed and sickened by the claycord Facebook feed posters that are joking about coffee and asking why this was reported, what’s wrong with the world? As illustrated by these desensitized idiots that have no compassion, kindness or love for a fellow human. Everyone has struggles but it is unfortunate when one breaks and sees no hope. I send love, strength and compassion to the person that attempted suicide and their family. I also hope the people that are joking realize just how low they have sunken in life regardless of status. Every being deserves love, compassion and kindness. If you aren’t putting it out odds are that’s because it is what you lack.

6 D January 8, 2013 at 8:20 AM

I hope it’s not your brother Stacy, and that you’re able to give your brother the support he needs.

So sad for this man and his family. Suicide is so devastating for those left behind.

7 Anon January 8, 2013 at 8:31 AM

Sometimes there are no warning signs no matter how observant you are. Sometimes people act on impulse and react to a moment.

Thoughts go out to the man and his family.

Stacy, I hope you have heard from your brother by now.

8 Lulu January 8, 2013 at 8:38 AM

Stacy, call the Coroner’s Office.

9 Swanky January 8, 2013 at 8:44 AM

Suicide is devastating, but at least its final. Imagine how someone must feel when they perceive to have nothing left, and the pain is so intense that death seems a relief.

So many families just let the mentally ill fade away without ever asking others for help. They lack the coping tools in the family, but are generally too ashamed to seek help outside their limited social circles.

10 b January 8, 2013 at 8:45 AM

Stacy does he drive a newer bmw?

11 Bilbo baggins January 8, 2013 at 8:51 AM

This is why euthanasias should be a legal thing in California. Who are we to say you can’t end your own life. If you make a choice about how you want to live then it’s yours to make. What’s more humane, euthanasias or gunshot to the head/ jumping off a bridge. Oregon here we come, since euthanasias is legal there.

12 LorieStories January 8, 2013 at 9:01 AM

Suicide is selfish. I feel sorry for the officers who had to witness it, and the poor Schmoe who had to clean it up,. Not to mention the grieving family. If you going to off yourself, go do it out in the wilderness or with pills.

13 The Dude January 8, 2013 at 9:16 AM

I would kill myself too if I lived in Concord.

14 Parsnip January 8, 2013 at 9:20 AM

@#11 — Here “we” come? That’s so Jim Jonesish. You might want to forward your emails and text messages to a family member in your own interests.

But somehow I don’t believe the majority agrees with you and is planning a mass Exodus to Oregon.

15 Steamer January 8, 2013 at 9:30 AM

@Stacy

Don’t be such a drama queen. Your reaction is exactly what this guy wanted.

16 ANNON January 8, 2013 at 9:35 AM

I don’t think it’s all about mental illness. Sometimes people feel so alone, left out and ignored that it’s hard for them to cope. People don’t realize the hurt they do by their actions. Some people are more sensative than others and it’s hard for them to cope with the simple things.
Prayers to him and the family!

17 Sinn Feiner January 8, 2013 at 9:38 AM

A lot of times there’s no warning signs unfortunately. When I was a teenager growing up in Oakley, my next door neighbor hung himself. He was in his late 20’s. Really nice guy. I was at his house the day before joking around with him. We were both laughing. I would had never saw it coming.

18 Knight January 8, 2013 at 9:40 AM

Terrible. God bless the paramedics, cops and fire people that had to see this. It’s sad that life gets so bad people do this. Mental illness is real and can’t be undertood by mentally healthy individuals.

19 mama January 8, 2013 at 9:57 AM

This is sad. But… Possibly can be an attempted murder, the shooter put it in his hand and took off. I watch too much tv lol. Suicide is very selfish your only thinking about yourself and not how its going to affect the ones in your life. I hope the guy Is ok

20 The Dude January 8, 2013 at 9:58 AM

#13 is someone using my name again. Never understood the point of registering via the above link, if anyone can just use the name you registered under. I’ve had it with Concord too, but I think I’ll just move.

21 Anon January 8, 2013 at 10:06 AM

Warning signs? In fact, MANY who commit suicide do so in a very planned manner. Not all. Some might be more impulsive, but many plan and if have been struggling may actually seem “ok” for the days leading to their demise. It is sad, but stay close, don’t be afraid to ask “are you ok?” to someone you think might not be. I can tell you from experience there are many people struggling, I mean really struggling, but can’t or don’t ask for help. Would never ask for help. It’s hard to help people who look ok on the outside, and unfortunately there are so many stories of those who looked ok, seemed ok, had a “perfect life” and then this. We all do the best we can. We can only pray our loved ones stay safe and don’t go down this dark path. You don’t know the struggles of other people. Believe me, some are under some tremendous pressure and you just don’t know what the “straw” could be for some. Just look out for each other – always. You never know if that one kindness makes someone day that much easier. Or a smile that might perk someone up. Or an offer of help that might make someone realize they’re important to someone.

I’ve given up on the people that talk about suicide with the tact and knowledge of an ox. You have no idea.

22 ANNON January 8, 2013 at 10:32 AM

It amazes me how people can judge others, when they probably have no idea where that persons life has lead them. It is not just the mentally ill, people in major pain in body, are a big percentage of suicide. When you are broke, sick, have little food or family support, feel alone, there are so many people out there. I had a neighbor say that to me, and that she felt like she had failed as a mother, and she wanted to end her life. I brought her to my house, made her call a direct family member, because ALL of her utilities were off, the person came through with money to help and I told her she needed to call her doctor, and that I would be over checking on her and her children, and calling. I said if you do not answer I will call the police to check on you. She made it through a very hard time, I have brought food over and made sure she knows we are here. Sometimes someone has to show compassion, you really think everyone that commits suicide THINKS oh what am I doing??????Sometimes its an instant short period of desperation. What a bunch of selfish people, go out smile at someone today, give a hug, let someone ahead of you in line,open a door. Do something nice for someone who looks alone and might be having a hard time. What goes around comes around.

23 Don't Censor Me Bro January 8, 2013 at 10:35 AM

A little known suicide related matter — a nexus may appear such that family members of those who so commit may also commit suicide…

Here’s a link people may or may not have heard of:
http://www.thebridge-themovie.com/new/index.html

24 Don't Censor Me Bro January 8, 2013 at 10:39 AM

@ Sinn #17 – remember back then — YOU were a “Teenager.”

25 @SC January 8, 2013 at 11:23 AM

You make it sound so simple. People have to want to be helped. You can’t force them. The issues go deeper than we understand and sometimes just asking how they are is not enough, especially if they are on drugs or alcohol.
Be nice to everybody everyday. We are all hurting.

26 iluvsfbal January 8, 2013 at 11:34 AM

I don’t think it’s all about mental illness. Sometimes people feel so alone, left out and ignored that it’s hard for them to cope. People don’t realize the hurt they do by their actions. Some people are more sensative than others and it’s hard for them to cope with the simple things.
Prayers to him and the family!

VERY TRUE!!!!

27 ChampagneKitty January 8, 2013 at 11:50 AM

Because my sleeping pattern is all messed up, I was awake and listening to the scanner when this happened. Not only do I feel bad for the person who did this to himself, but I also felt bad for the first responders who had to tend to him.

28 SC January 8, 2013 at 11:52 AM

#25 – okay, so you think it is better to wait for the person to come to you and ask you to help them? You are retarded. You obviously don’t know anything about mental illness and/or suicide. At their lowest point, not everyone can reach out and/or they are embarrassed to ask for help. It is everyone’s responsibility to let those around you know you are there for them is a great start. Waiting for them to come to you might prove fatal and you will hear about what happened before it is too late.

29 Don't Censor Me Bro January 8, 2013 at 12:31 PM

SC #28 —>

Did you vote for ObLAMEr?

He makes fun of special olympics and you seem to make light of the term, “retarded.” And you want others to believe that YOU somehow “Know” something “about mental illness and/or suicide?”

Really?

30 Lari January 8, 2013 at 12:44 PM

It’s so easy to judge someone who commits suicide as “selfish”. I’ve done it – especially recently, when a 42-year old mother of an 8-year old boy that I know jumped off a cliff in Marin. She ‘announced’ this decision on Facebook just moments before she jumped. She felt her son would be better off with ex-husband and his new wife, etc. and said there was nothing anyone could have done to have changed her mind. I was so angry. But I’ve since realized that unless I walk in someone’s shoes, I can’t make that call. It was terrible and I’m sorry she was in such a low state to do such a horrific thing to herself and her loved ones. Whoever this man was, who shot himself at the shopping center, was a lost soul and I can only feel sorry for he and his family now. No judgement.

31 MamaP January 8, 2013 at 1:07 PM

I am in the field. Here is a “Reader’s Digest” version of what to look for.

Person gives away beloved belongings.
Person has a plan-knows when, where, how-may express this
Person has availability of means (guns, drugs, knives)
Person will often go to an isolated area so no one sees them
Person has previous suicide attempts
Person has stress-usually severe reaction to loss or changes
Gross disturbance in daily functions (disrupted sleep, eating)
Overwhelmed with hopelessness, sadness and feels worthless
Family and friends may not be available or are exhausted or hostile
Very indirect communication-non verbal expression of internalized thoughts
Repeated difficulty with family, peers, teachers
May have a chronic debilitating or acute catastrophic illness

RUN – do not walk-to the closest Emergency room-Dial 911 if you are on site…CC Regional Medical Center has a PES (psych emergency services dept) open 24 hours. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE reach out to these people. Their internal pain is so bad, they CANNOT see through it. It is not their fault. Please have compassion for another human being-you have NOT walked in their shoes-so you don’t know their suffering.

God bless this person-and may he rest in peace. My heart goes out to the family and loved ones.

32 Pale Rider January 8, 2013 at 1:25 PM

A little perspective: I know (knew) 5 people that comitted suicide ages 15, 22, 25, 37 and 38. All young people. One was sexually abused as a child, two had battled addiction for years, one was a depressed “loner” and one was flat out throwing a tantrum and made a really bad decision. You just don’t know what people are going through mentally. It is horrific to take your own life, especially in a public place where others, espescially children, can see. It is really easy to crucify one’s soul for doing such a thing but you don’t know the dark place they are in for them to make such a decision. One’s depression can be very different than anothers for a variety of reasons. Some people are mentally and emotionally stronger than others just as one can be physically stronger. It’s that simple. Not everyone can overcome deep emotional sorrow. I’m not excusing suicide but I have empathy for the people that feel their life isn’t worth living and sympathy for their loved ones. It has a profound affect on loved ones and can’t be fully understood. Stop throwing stones and use the energy to bring more joy and maybe it could prevent such a thing form happening without even knowing it.

33 DaughterOfSuicide January 8, 2013 at 1:29 PM

As the daughter of a suicide, I can tell you that there are not always obvious signs. I was beyond shocked when my Father took his life, as he always seemed to be so mellow and happy. My compassion for families of suicides is boundless. Please don’t blame yourselves for what your loved one did. Learn how, and teach your children how, to ask for help when you need it. So often, a helping hand is just a simple request away. You are never, ever alone. Blessings.

34 Anonymom January 8, 2013 at 2:03 PM

Mayor is there any update to this story?

35 susan case January 8, 2013 at 2:22 PM

Did you find out if he passed?

36 A-Bubble. January 8, 2013 at 3:07 PM

JUST DO IT YOU NIKE WEARIN POODLE!!

37 b January 8, 2013 at 3:28 PM

not releasing the name??/ age at least???

38 CLAYCORD.com January 8, 2013 at 3:31 PM

I heard he was in his 70’s.

39 karebear January 8, 2013 at 3:31 PM

Was not stacys brother or my friend thank god,,god bless whoevers family member it was

40 The Dude January 8, 2013 at 3:44 PM

@ #20 . . .stop whining . . a man has died . . . dont let Cali’s door hit you on the way out!!

like jeff . hehe

41 Jeff January 8, 2013 at 4:16 PM

Much respect to the Man . . Its the attempt or failing that makes me shake my head

42 The Dude January 8, 2013 at 4:34 PM

looks like Concord’s rep just might improve after all, go ahead, get the hell outta here.

43 Anon January 8, 2013 at 4:45 PM

Very very sad. I’m so sorry to his family and so sad for him to think this was the only way :( I don’t blame anyone around him. It was a decision he made. I hope his family will find peace some day and remember him fondly.

44 J. Lilly January 8, 2013 at 6:24 PM

I feel really sad that nobody was able to connect with this poor man. It makes me wonder about a lot of things. So many of us get pushed away from our tribes, banished to loneliness and pain because we simply think differently.

I pray this man has found some peace for his soul.

45 Killjoy January 8, 2013 at 6:46 PM

I’m sorry this man thought this was the only solution to whatever was bothering him. My thoughts to the family.

On another note (please don’t take this as a calloused comment), is this going to be considered a “murder” for Concord for 2013?

46 Mimi (original) January 9, 2013 at 3:18 PM

You can talk to someone about letting you know if they’re feeling so low that they think suicide is the only way out until you’re blue in the face, but the truth is that when someone is a that low of a spot in their life they simply cannot see beyond it. My heart breaks for anyone who has had their life touched by the suicide of a loved one or friend. It is something you never really get over.

47 I got 5150'd January 10, 2013 at 2:27 AM

hey i got 5150’d two years ago they talked to me. Decided it was a reaction to my asthma meds (prednisone) therefore a medical issue a bus ticket after 7pm at county hospital. no shoes no shirt done. its taken the rest of the two years to get on zoloft. Unless your diagnosed with a clinical depression. or diagnosed mental illness, then depression is a medical issue and they tell you to go see your doctor. Two years it took with, no job, no insurance, homeless. You have to go to the Welfare office and tell them at intake you need to talk to a doctor. They set the whole thing up. The county mental health triage does not treat simple depression. Thank God for the VA. They provide me with therapy and the county provides the medical doctor that prescribes the zoloft. It took me four months of being on hold for hours each day before giving up and calling a few days later to finally talk to someone on the phone to get the medical appointment. Just getting help was so stressful and depressing I almost killed myself. Until i went to apply for food stamps of all places and they had a doctor right there i could talk to. So if your depress got no money apply for food stamps and tell them you need to see a doctor they will help. No one else will.

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