It’s Very Sad That We Need Signs Like This!

November 15, 2012 15:00 pm · 49 comments

Anonymous November 15, 2012 at 3:07 PM

It’s kind of funny how the “If not, we ask that you please leave now” is in bigger print than the “if you can agree to the above, we welcome you.” I think we get the message:)

Really? November 15, 2012 at 3:07 PM

It is very sad that we need signs like this in our neighborhood; that we all view as a safe environment. However, I commend Concord AYSO for taking a stand to protect our children from abusive behavior. Well done, Concord AYSO! Thank you.

Kudos AYSO November 15, 2012 at 3:21 PM

Sad? Yes. But necessary? Yes. Disagree? That’s fine – I’d like to hear other suggestions to what has become a real problem. My co-worker coaches 5 year olds and he cannot believe the way parents behave at these soccer matches. As the sign says, “it’s for the kids.” Lock it up, parents.

Howard K Mullins III November 15, 2012 at 3:21 PM

Treat others as you would like to be treated.

Sadly in today’s society, even those ancient words of wisdom are not enough.

Missundertaker November 15, 2012 at 3:28 PM

I remember playing in ayso years ago. There were some nasty parents and coaches. They were all about winning. That’s one of the reasons why I quit. It’s sad to have these signs, yes, but it’s even worse to not be reminded and have parents like these out on the field.

JC November 15, 2012 at 3:32 PM

I umpire baseball and referee basketball at the high school and youth level. By far there are more issues with coaches and parents at the youth games. At least they are trying to keep the parents civil at AYSO! In leagues like CYO, Little League and AYSO at least there boards that are responsible. In high school, the athletic directors carry wieght and can control the fans and the coaches. The worst games to do are the travel teams or AAU teams in all sports – they usually don’t have the league oversight and some parents think the can say whatever they want.

WC44 November 15, 2012 at 3:35 PM

I think it would be fun to have a parent free game for the kids. Coach free would probably even be better.

WTF November 15, 2012 at 3:41 PM

When I was a kid in PHBA it was “Every Boy Plays” not “Every Boy Wins”

Damn I’m old…

Dragon November 15, 2012 at 3:47 PM

My brother coaches in a couple of little leagues, and he has a few doozies about parents when we’re sharing “this idiot in my workplace” stories.

Dvsc player and now parent November 15, 2012 at 3:54 PM

Has everyone seen the parents of Clayton?! Its unreal. I am a resident, and now coach my children. Yes. It’s everywhere. But Certain individuals in Clayton have caught my attention through my kids baseball, swim, soccer, football and swim. Someone needs to tell them to calm the heck down. I love the sign.

The Real McCoy November 15, 2012 at 4:04 PM

I’m sure it’s Obama’s fault somehow.

City Girl November 15, 2012 at 4:09 PM

Awesome!! It’s about time.

Remember, some of the coaches can be jerks, too. I my 15 years of sitting on the sidelines watching my children play soccer, there were several coaches who yelled and screamed at the players. That is equally unacceptable.

anonanonagain November 15, 2012 at 4:21 PM

You can see the parents insecurities come out as they live their lives through their children. It seems if their child doesn’t win then somehow it means that they lost or are losers. Lighten up!!! And we wonder why people are beaten nearly to death at sports events…….

a monument resident November 15, 2012 at 4:22 PM

I can understand why people might feel that way. I’m stuck in Monument working for minimum wage cause I didn’t win in life.

But I still have the classic immigrant spirit and won’t give up, regardless of what Obama does. There’s still plenty of opportunity and stuff to be done, and I still get up early to try.

Elwood November 15, 2012 at 4:40 PM

Once when my granddaughter was batting in a CYO game, I was making disparaging remarks about the opposing pitcher, until I noticed that my son was looking at me very strangely.

Boy, was I embarrassed!

WHY DOES THIS SURPRISE ANY OF YOU? November 15, 2012 at 4:46 PM

If you want change make it happen!

Stop sticking your heads in the sand!

And I do not mean all of you only the complainers that will find something wrong with what I said!

Douglasfur November 15, 2012 at 4:57 PM

Having been a previous violator of said rules, I completely agree with having the sign there. I had to keep being reminded to SHUT UP! I was really bad, but you get so into it that it gets away from you. I’ll try to be better when I have grand kids because I do get it

Anon November 15, 2012 at 4:59 PM

Obama says, “Why isn’t in Spanish?”

Also, “You’re white, you’re old, you’re history”

Tod Gomes November 15, 2012 at 5:10 PM

I photograph a lot of youth sports and it is pretty incredible how “bad” some of these parents can be! I have even seen a coach knock down 2 kids while “showing them how to block” at halftime of a football game.
Football is the worst by far!
Saw a game a couple months ago where one of the coaches had an ankle bracelet and everyone on the sidelines had Air Jordans ETC, and there were many tatoos, but they could not “afford” $25 to sign up their child.

Anon November 15, 2012 at 5:10 PM

Good for Mt. Diablo ayso to put up the sign as a reminder to parents.
Wish the little league would try something. My 17 year old
son still talks about a mom from Clayton who was so
obnoxious at 12 year old little league games. I eventually
stopped sitting in the bleachers due to her….and that was the
last year my son played baseball. Thanks AK!

anonanonagain November 15, 2012 at 5:12 PM


Change can happen if people want it to. Agreed. But you can only change the attitude and the mindset of yourself. You can’t change the attitude of the idiots if the idiots want to be….. idiots.

Jinx November 15, 2012 at 5:55 PM

@ Parent Now (10)

By and large, Clayton parents are pretty civil at youth sports. Yes, there are some obnoxious parents and I’ve seen a few things that were “unreal.” But those “few” isolated things do not represent our community at large. There are quite a few really good parent spectators/coaches too. It’s not like all the parents are running amok at youth sports games in the local area.

In my observation, most Clayton parents are civil and do “get it.”

J. November 15, 2012 at 6:35 PM

A.Y.S.O = American Youth Soccer Organization, in case you were wondering.

Concord Dad November 15, 2012 at 6:51 PM

It is sad that they have to put up signs like this, but as a youth coach I agree that they are necessary. At the beginning of our season, I always give the parents a speech about acceptable behavior. Now that I think about it, I have had way more problems with other coaches than any parents. Too many coaches go out there thinking that they are going to be Vince Lombardi, I just want to shake them and say “you’re coaching U8 in a rec league- RELAX!”

Bobby Sands November 15, 2012 at 7:38 PM

I think the sign is fine, provided that no public money went in to the land or the organization. I do not want my taxes to support any organization that discriminates against people. I totally support the thoughts I just want it to be private. If it is not private and the land is publicly owned then this is wrong.

Blah Blah blah November 15, 2012 at 7:46 PM

as a laid back parent that laughs at the “involved” parents I can see why you need that sign. They are like bad reality t.v, in actual reality!

But to you “involved” parents: your kids are kids let them use this time to find what they love, Don’t make them into what you wish you were. square pegs don’t fit in circles. Passion is not a bad thing it is what truly drives a person.

Swanky November 15, 2012 at 7:56 PM

Don’t worry, its not a Concord thing. AYSO is a national organization that promotes this program all across the country. if they keep reinforcing their message, eventually the sign can be reduced down to just the Kids Zone logo. No big whoop. At least its not mean.

KooKooKaChoo November 15, 2012 at 8:34 PM

I guess Alcohol is OK !!

Scott November 15, 2012 at 9:02 PM

Whatever happened to a free society

Starfish November 15, 2012 at 9:14 PM

Our society is still free-but only if you are over 18 and out of your parent’s house.

GD98 November 15, 2012 at 9:15 PM

#29- No reasonable free society should tolerate jack hole parents/coaches at youth games. It’s not the World Cup and hopefully you don’t have money on the game. Relax and let the kids enjoy themselves.

Pretty Sign November 15, 2012 at 9:17 PM

AND who is going to enforce the rules? If it is to the point that a sign needs to be made then obviously they are not enforced. I know that some coaches as well as parents are intimidated. I have seen it at all sporting games. The coach tries to be polite then never does anymore. I guess having a sign will make them leave. If it is that bad then someone should enforce it. AND while you are at it, get some of these coaches to stop the verbal abuse. I know that yelling is part of the game, but when you are yelling at the kids and showing your ANGER, it is abuse. SOME coaches should not be coaches.

Sunstar November 15, 2012 at 10:16 PM

lol 🙂

Pegasus November 15, 2012 at 11:29 PM

@ Pretty Sign #32 –
The ref should enforce the rules by warning the coach to control the team parents. Failing that he has the power of the RED CARD. The ref can RED CARD the coaches which ends the game in forfeit.

momo November 16, 2012 at 8:09 AM

Years ago when my daughter was in AYSO her dad was always her coach One year they had a winning team. One of the other coaches didn’t like that his team lost to my daughters team and with the influence that he had with the local AYSO he had her dad removed from the team. My thought is good sportsmanship starts from within the organization

Mac November 16, 2012 at 8:26 AM

I think the parents & coaches that are the worst.
Are the ones who didn`t play sports themselves.
So they try and live thru their kids.
It`s sad to see a parent that never could do it themselves, trying to complain about how their kid is playing.

Like they say, if you can`t play then coach.
And this shows up with many parents and coaches.

If you have already gone thru all yourself, you realize the lower leagues are for fun.
And you are there to see the kids having fun.
But if you have never been there yourself.
You are trying to win that title you were never allowed to get as a kid.
And you can end up ruining the whole thing, for both you and your kid.

Real Coaches talk to players, not yell. (winning coaches that is)

SunStar November 16, 2012 at 8:57 AM

Mac, you are right. The parents and coaches should just let the kids play and enjoy the game. I know I did when my son used to play baseball, soccer, football and basketball.

Mac November 16, 2012 at 9:22 AM

Started as a umpire with PHBA many moons ago. (my first pay check)
Went on to Coach my kids, and then High School Football & Softball.
So i`ve dealt with many parents thru the years.

You can almost tell which parents you`ll have problems with.
Just by looking at them.

If you are not out there to see that the kids have fun.
Then please stay home.
Because no one wants a parent comnplaining why their kid is not a star in T-ball

Trade November 16, 2012 at 9:41 AM

I had a friend that volunteered to coach a kids soccer team only after nobody else would. He had parents complaining to him about how he was coaching and yelling at him. He was just trying to make it fun for the kids. He wouldn’t do it again.

J. November 16, 2012 at 9:47 AM

“… only coaches coach …”

That’s B.S.

The Professor November 16, 2012 at 9:52 AM

The really sad part is not that we have signs like this. It’s that there will still be parents who read the sign and continue to swear, yell, badger, litter, etc.

There is nothing wrong with cheering on the kids or voicing displeasure with a bad call. Berating a kid for a bad play or screaming at a ref for a questionable call is not ok.

The bad seed parents know when they are being asses. And these crappy people won’t give a rip that a sign tells them to stop.

An AYSO parent November 16, 2012 at 10:03 AM

As a parent of players in the AYSO family, you would be SHOCKED at the level of crazy of some of the parents. It’s disgraceful. The signs give leverage for when parents do go crazy and get ejected. It’s sad but necessary.

Sunstar November 16, 2012 at 10:36 AM

I really have to agree with the professor on this. Well said and noted.

Charles-the-cat November 16, 2012 at 11:29 AM

@Scott 29 – You can’t have a free society if you don’t first have a civil society. Anything else is just self-absorbed jerkdom masquerading as freedom.

anon November 16, 2012 at 12:33 PM

Torn. As I’m not sure I buy into the EVERY child gets a trophy or no scoring (as is the case in some areas/some sports/some ages). Some do win, some do lose – it’s a learning experience. Watch the Randy Pausch “Last Lecture” he presented at Carnegie Mellon. Wow! It is worth watching for MANY reasons, but relevant here is the “head fake.” You don’t go to soccer to learn soccer (well you do but you’re likely not having a kid going to olympics or world cup)… it’s for ALL THE OTHER STUFF you learn, and the more and more we soften everything into there are no winners or losers, or everyone’s a winner, kids usually hit a pretty big brick wall later in life. You learn more from losing than you ever will from winning. Watch the youtube.

This also goes for all sports. Swimming parents and coaches forget it is supposed to be fun. Baseball? Oh my, forget about it! Football? Heck CYO basketball has parents being escorted out! Parents, come on! Let the kids play… win or lose, they’re learning and growing as HUMAN beings.

nytemuvr November 16, 2012 at 12:49 PM

That sign will “disappear” within 2 weeks, if that.

skippy November 16, 2012 at 4:27 PM

I’m amazed there are no spelling or grammatical errors in it. Seems like every sign I see, even professional ones are full of them.

Benzo November 17, 2012 at 10:07 AM

Too bad some need to be instructed and too bad others are subjected to the stupidity involved instructing the others. I’m the latter and nobody wins. Good luck kids.

Benzo November 17, 2012 at 10:08 AM

Oh Yeah…. What is A LERT?

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