Column: The Real Housewife of Claycord – Every Thursday at 2pm on

May 3, 2012 14:00 pm · 45 comments

The Real Housewife of Claycord – Every Thursday at 2pm on

Hi Claycordians!

Mr. Mayor said I could stick around for the foreseeable future, so I’m back for another week, and will be back next week, and the week after that and the week after that, etc.

This week, I want to talk about the cops….

Cops have a real crappy job. Yes, they get paid very well (in most cases), but look at what they have to put up with on a daily basis.

I realize that I’m just a “housewife”, and some of you think I should stick to talking about “housewife stuff”, but sometimes I have to go off the track a little and talk about something that’s on my mind, so this week, I’m talking about cops.

There are good cops and there are bad cops, just like there are good people and bad people, or good dogs and bad dogs.

Recently, we’ve been hearing a lot about the bad cops. Sexual harassment lawsuits, possible corruption, a cop allegedly beating his girlfriend, we’ve all read the stories, but what we don’t hear is that for every bad cop, there’s about twenty good ones.

For one minute, let’s just remind ourselves what these first responders do for us on a daily basis.

Cops will run into a burning building to rescue a person while everybody else is running out (yes, I know, firefighters do, too). Cops will stand in between you and a person trying to harm you. Cops will chase after a person with a gun without fear of losing their own life. Cops see the aftermath of domestic violence. Cops help rape victims. Cops have to inform a family member when the family member just lost a loved one in a tragic way. Cops have to see dead children after a person just wiped them out with his vehicle.

I’m keeping this column short & sweet this week, because I don’t need a thousand words to prove my point.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t criticize cops, because everybody who works for the people needs to be held accountable for their actions, but next time you criticize, remember there are really good cops out there who don’t really care what you say about them, and they’ll be there in a matter of seconds if you need help.

For once, let’s remember the good ones instead of the ones who give the city and the department a horrible reputation.

Moving on….

A few things I saw around Claycord this week:

  • Yan Can Cook’s in closed in Pleasant Hill. I never really liked that place.
  • A BBQ restaurant is moving into the old Fresh Choice building in the Sunvalley Mall. Really, another BBQ place?
  • Why do people have to be such jerks and not let you move over when you put your blinker on? This week a man on Concord Avenue would not let me move over. I think it took more energy on his part to not let me in than it would have to just slow down a little and let me quickly pull in front of him.

The Real Housewife of Claycord Housetip of the Week:

  • To keep sliced apples nice and crisp, sprinkle a little lemon juice on them before you put them in the fridge. It keeps them fresh and adds a little flavor.

That’s it for this week.

I hope you all have a wonderful week, see you next Thursday at 2pm!

It’s time for me to go make a pie!

-The Real Housewife of Claycord xxoo

1 Yikes May 3, 2012 at 2:06 PM

maybe if more “good cop” stories featured a balanced view would be easier to maintain…you bring up valid points

2 Cowellian May 3, 2012 at 2:21 PM

Once I put my blinker on, I’m telling you what I’m going to do, not asking your permission.

3 wa da puk May 3, 2012 at 2:29 PM

Blah Blah Blah…Whatever makes you feel important lady.

4 Anon777 May 3, 2012 at 2:36 PM

Was the idiot on Concord Ave driving a silver or grey smaller pickup? That AHole wouldn’t let me over on Clayton Road the other morning after driving for a mile with my blinker on. He had more than enough time to know I needed over and he was tailgating the person in front of him trying not to let me in. I let him know what an ass he was being by just coming on over and when he honked at me like I’m the idiot, I gave him the friendly finger.

5 Nonya Bizness May 3, 2012 at 2:37 PM

Housewife…I really enjoy your column and am super happy that you’re not going anywhere. I am a single mom who supports two teenage boys (only one that is mine – long story) and I appreciate learning from someone who has the time to teach others about housewifey things.

Thank you…

6 Concordejet May 3, 2012 at 2:37 PM

It true you do not need to add a million words to desribe a good cop and bad cops. Just keep ti short because we do not wanna spend 48 hours reading full description while looking at the screen.

I am glad you are not in Stockton nor Lodi becuase those places got the worst drivers ever.

Now what kind of a cop is he?????? did not arrest a sex offender yesterday when he told her to get in the car batch This teenagter is amazing she was brave. I wish more parents out there to teach their children about safety wise from strangers. This is one good example of a bad cop. What do you mean he cannot arrest him even though he did not touch her. It still a CRIME that he was harrasting!!!!!!!!!

Youa re right those cops are geting paid so well for not doing their job and guess where that coming from? OUT OF OUR TAX MONEY!!!!!!!!!!!

maybe I should get a job as a cop all I need is my name without the police academy.

hey good to have you around for a little longer at least not until you are 100 years old haha

save me some pie please haha

7 Wisecracker May 3, 2012 at 2:44 PM

I agree, cops have a crappy job. Personally, you couldn’t pay me enough to be one.

Also, from what I’ve seen, those who become cops are the ones who were bullied and picked on when they were kids. And, yes, there are good cops and bad cops. I think the mistake is when we put these people on a pedestal and to think they can do no wrong. Don’t forget they are human just like the rest of and just because they are cops it doesn’t mean they live a honest life. If you want to see a good movie which involves police corruption, watch American Gangster.

Finally, I have a couple of gripes about “Blinkers”, too. First of all, yes, it would be nice if more people would acknowledge when someone puts on their blinker to change lanes – rather than speed up, how about doing something nice and let the person in. On the flip side, just because you put your blinker on it doesn’t automatically mean there is an opening immediately in the lane for you to move into… I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had a car in the lane next to me put on their blinker and start moving into my lane at the same time. Hello!

8 Police Supporter May 3, 2012 at 2:46 PM

Thank you Real Housewife of Claycord for mentioning our men and women in Blue. They go to work every day, knowing that they may not make it home again to see their families. I know, I am the family member of an officer that went to work one day and never made it back home. He laid his life down protecting the citizens of Contra Costa County. Keep in mind that evil does exist and the only thing standing between evil and you are our men and women in blue. May is National Fallen Officer month. Your column is timely. Thank you for praising our men and women in blue.

9 Anon May 3, 2012 at 2:49 PM

Glad you are staying Housewife.
I try and be good about letting people over when they have their blinker on but I hate it when that person knows they have to get over and yet waits to use the blinker and then tries to slide in at the last minute.

10 LTG May 3, 2012 at 2:52 PM

So the guy wouldn’t let you in!!! Would it have killed you to slow down so you could change lanes and get behind him?!?!?!? Putting a turn signal on doesn’t entitle you to anything…

11 annon May 3, 2012 at 2:54 PM

@ Cowellian #2,
……. and you’d be wrong and legally liable for the deliberate “accident” you caused.
Wise up!

12 LTG May 3, 2012 at 2:56 PM

Oh…and maybe the BBQ place that’s going in at the mall will have good BBQ! Most of the places in CLAYCORD are just average.

I seem to remember you made the same comment about the golf shop moving into the old Borders in PH. Funny…it’s not another shop…it’s relocated from Nut Creek!

Maybe you should stick to baking pies since you don’t like BBQ, Yan’s or golf…

Just my 2 cents.

13 t-brut May 3, 2012 at 3:03 PM

Yikes #1 is right on the money. sadly the media focuses on the bad, the ugly and the worst of the worst becuase its those stories that sell. in my opinion, 7 out of 10 stories reported by the press have a negative storyline. PLEASE FEATURE MORE POSITIVE STORIES BOUT OUR COMMUNITY :) :O

14 Kirkwood May 3, 2012 at 3:05 PM

As a City employee who who worked occasionaly in Concord PD, I found that the personalities of the police officers represented a cross section of society, just like any other workplace.

15 Cowellian May 3, 2012 at 3:10 PM

I don’t cause deliberate accidents.

16 Kirkwood May 3, 2012 at 3:14 PM

Instead of trying to squeeze in front of somebody, blinkers or not, why not just slow down for a few seconds and merge behind them. You could also plan your merge a block or so earlier. Show some courtesy.

17 1BAR May 3, 2012 at 3:39 PM

…Or maybe “the little woman” should just pull over to the side & let everyone pass? I’m with Cowellian! Given my 30 ish years of driving experience without causing 1 single accident, if I’m doing something wrong…I don’t want to be right! Now on to the folks in blue! It seems like EVERYone has something to say! Kind of reminds me of watching a sporting event on tv. My G-d, aren’t we all a bunch of couch pro’s! Yelling at the top of our lungs at the dumb sob that just missed the shot! (I know I’m not alone in this!!!). Please believe me when I say, the dude from yesterday is not off the hook!


18 MO May 3, 2012 at 4:33 PM

Love the blog…:0)

I have two Sons who are in Law Enforcement jobs…in different ways.
One has been in the Military for 31 years and in Corrections for 27…the other has been with the Highway Patrol for 20 years. Neither were bullied as youngsters…they grew up on a farm, riding horses, herding cattle and working at other jobs for other folks. They are buff, and muscular and tough….country boys, …. with hearts as big as all outdoors.

It takes men to work as cops….and wimps to criticize them.
When there is a bad one, they are weeded out first by their peers…..

I suppose it would be nice to have some real working LE folks on the blog, but they are out working while the rest of you whiners are laying around with you laptops.

Thank you to all the Cops and Firemen and other people who serve the communities….you are HEROS and should be recognized for your job well done.
What kind of pie are you making today?
If it’s lemon meringue … I would certainly be first in line for a slice.


19 Cindy May 3, 2012 at 4:59 PM

Glad you’re staying!

20 the real superman May 3, 2012 at 5:14 PM

They perfer being called Police not cops .
Now go burn a pie.

21 Subterfuge May 3, 2012 at 5:36 PM


Don’t even have to make contact. An unsafe lane change is a cite-able offense.

22 Horse'n Around May 3, 2012 at 5:39 PM

@ Mo. Being a LE family myself, I totally agree with you. Well said. There will always be good and bad. But our society always seems to focus on the negitive. It seems it’s easier to talk bad about someone or something than good. Next week is LE week. How about thanking our LE out there? I know I will! And I want Lemon Meringue too!

23 Grumpy Old Man May 3, 2012 at 7:10 PM

Until ANYONE has spent a week, walking where our Women and Men In Blue must go, please do not be critical of their jobs…’nuf said!

24 Encyclopedia33 May 3, 2012 at 7:14 PM

Darn! I really liked Yan’s! And I agree we don’t need ANOTHER BBQ Restaurant – Boo. But at least the place won’t stand empty.

25 Using a turn signal.... May 3, 2012 at 7:47 PM

20 yrs ago I heard this joke:

“In California, using a turn signal is a sign of weakness”

I think it still applies today!

26 Pinky May 3, 2012 at 7:58 PM

@ Cowellian #2
That’s classic, I love it!

I think a lot of drivers are like animals, they can sense your fear. So if you look like you’re hesitating while trying to change lanes then lots of times people won’t give you room to move. At least that’s been my experience. I used to get really aggravated by drivers when I was being polite by signaling and slowing down and then nobody would let me in because, I’m assuming, they did not want to be slowed down. I’ve learned that you need to make your own openings sometimes. I’m not advocating doing anything crazy or reckless, but if there’s a spot open then signal and move. The key is being assertive, not aggressive.

27 Killjoy May 3, 2012 at 8:04 PM

Let’s hope the BBQ at Sun Valley Mall will be better than Ickey’s in the Clayton Valley Shopping Center.

Any chance it’s going to be an Armadillo Willy’s?

28 Juan Can Cook May 3, 2012 at 8:05 PM

1) Yan Can Cook was overpriced disgusting industrial “Chinese” food. I had “Chinese” in quotes because all the cooks were Mexicans.

2) Speaking of overpriced, BBQ joints are always super expensive. I’d rather have Fresh Choice back.

3) Just because you put your blinker on, it doesn’t mean the next lane is spontaneously and instantly yours. I let the meathead speed demons thugs fly by before changing lanes.

29 Shiloh May 3, 2012 at 8:25 PM

I am sure Cowellian doesn’t just turn on his blinker and plow into people! He needs to get over, he speeds up or slows down to get a good position, he flips his blinker on and changes lanes! I do the same and so should everyone.

30 Some Guy May 3, 2012 at 9:07 PM

Yan most definitely cannot..

31 Cowellian May 3, 2012 at 9:28 PM

Thank you, Shiloh.

32 Less than MEDIOCRE May 3, 2012 at 9:32 PM

Your columns vary week by week but you always seem to have such a negative undertone, for example, for every thing you saw around claycord this week, you made your own negative comment about it:

■Yan Can Cook’s in closed in Pleasant Hill. I never really liked that place.
■Really, another BBQ place?
■Why do people have to be such jerks and not let you move over when you put your blinker on?

Honestly it’s annoying and I can see why someone is always saying they feel sorry for your husband. It seems you want to bicker and nit pick every little thing. We don’t come on here to hear you negative opinions on things.

To state all this negativity to me shows that you lack the ability to come up and write something creatively and rather submit to writing about what you do or don’t like as the substance of the column.

You would really benefit from some college writing classes.

33 Adam Henry May 3, 2012 at 9:47 PM

“This week a man on Concord Avenue would not let me move over. I think it took more energy on his part to not let me in than it would have to just slow down a little and let me quickly pull in front of him.”

So why couldn’t you just slow down and get Behind him??? Why does He have to slow down for you?

34 CN May 3, 2012 at 10:23 PM

If you pass on a kindness others will pass it on. I try to give truckers room when they need to change lanes, as my father was a trucker. Most truckers are nice.

Thank you to the nice person that honked a few weeks ago and told me my center light and right brake light were out.l

Lemon merangue pie? Yes, me too.

35 Grateful wife May 3, 2012 at 10:32 PM

Luv the column…you go girl! Ignore the haters.

I am a L.E. supporter in every way. God bless each one of them!

@ MO…luved your post.

Apple pie for our family this week. Cheers!

36 Make My Day May 3, 2012 at 11:50 PM

I always remind myself that Law Enforcement, Rescue and Fire officers usually meet you on the worst day of your life.

37 Darwin May 4, 2012 at 7:18 AM

@ concordjet, the criminals have more rights than the citizens. Also, the police can do 1000 great things and all people will remember are the negative things. And as you have probably read recently in the media, no one is above the law. Even the few officers who are bad apples are brought to justice.

38 Pyrrhus May 4, 2012 at 8:29 AM

Yeah, it’s gotten so bad with attempting to change lanes with the blinker on that I only use my blinker when I know I can get in. If I signal sooner that I have an intention on getting in it seems everyone speeds up. I slow down and want to get in behind that person but the person behind them will speed up and tailgate just because. I really don’t understand why people are so inconsiderate. If I see someone signaling I will let them.

Also, what irks me even more are the way some people act when there are two lanes merging into one and there is traffic it is common courtesy to take turns between the two lanes, one car from the left followed by one from the right. It never fails that there is the ahole that doesn’ t want anybody merging in front of them. Or, you get the idiot merger that tries to use the side of the road to get in front of others.

39 Shiloh May 4, 2012 at 9:02 AM

@Pyrrhus, that’s just about exactly what I was going to say. I’m sure TRHoC was referring to this type of situation: you need to get over, you are in a good position to get over, you turn on our blinker and suddenly the other car speeds up and blocks you out. You COULD slow down but then you just anger the people behind you and then the car behind the first jerk who wouldn’t let you over will likely do the same thing! – especially because now you are slowing down and they think you will slow them down.

40 Shiloh May 4, 2012 at 9:10 AM

And how many times have I been flipped off when my lane is merging with another lane?! Where do they want me to go?? People who are reading this: PLEASE do not speed up and pass a car that is in front of you when two lanes are merging. It is not safe and the car that is farther ahead has the right of way, they are not cutting you off!! You make yourself look dumb and if you do it to someone like my husband you are likely to regret it! I’m not condoning road rage, I’m just saying that there are people out there who will make you wish you hadn’t been such an idiot! Whenever I accidentally do something dumb on the road I’m always glad when I don’t get my head blown off – you just never know who is behind the wheel of another vehicle! (my husband does not carry a gun) (FYI)

41 Mimi (original) May 4, 2012 at 9:11 AM

I agree with all the “another BBQ place!?!?” comments. We certainly don’t need another one. As for the turn-indicator issue, I know many people who believe that once they turn their blinkers on folks in the other lane should make way for their entry, but that isn’t the law and it’s not nice. As the vehicle desired to make a lane change it is up to YOU to be the courteous driver and WAIT for an opportunity to move over. You might not like someone not letting you in, but that’s their perogative. Most driver’s are jerks anyway, and I’m guessing you’re one of them…Have a great Friday!!

42 Concordian May 4, 2012 at 9:33 AM

I agree with #33. If someone won’t let you over, slow down and get behind them, end of story!

43 CONTON May 4, 2012 at 11:29 AM

I encountered a guy the other night who wanted to merge into my lane. There was nobody behind me for 1/4 mile, but he was hell-bent on getting into the small space between me and the car in front of me. I didn’t slow down for him to get in front of me, so he started merging right into me. When I honked the horn at him, he gave me the finger, lol. For all his efforts, he still ended up behind me.

44 @ Less than MEDIOCRE May 4, 2012 at 11:46 AM

I could not have said it better myself.

TRHOC please go jump off of a cliff. BTW your boss called you FAT because you had one too many pies.

K thnx bye

45 Just a Concordian May 4, 2012 at 12:22 PM

Was I the only one to see this?

“cops help rape victims”

1 – cops assist the victims of rape.

2 – cops assist in the rape of the victim

I know… I just thought it was funny.

Great column!

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