Dead body found hanging from a tree at Concord’s Baldwin Park

December 18, 2010 · 63 comments

A 50-year-old man has been found hanging from a tree at Baldwin Park in Concord, and police are calling it a suicide.

Lt. Steve Dyer says the man was found very late last night….

On Friday night at 1137 pm, officers were dispatched to John F. Baldwin Park off Port Chicago Highway regarding a possible deceased subject in the park.

Officers located a 50 year old male subject deceased inside the park near the picnic benches closest to Port Chicago Highway. The male subject’s death appeared to be a suicide which was corroborated by witness statements.

The case is currently under investigation. The subject’s identity is being withheld pending notification of his family.

1 Michelle December 18, 2010 at 8:39 AM

Isn’t this the second person found hanging from a tree at this park? I am certain I’ve heard about another story just like this, recently

2 G-Sphere December 18, 2010 at 8:40 AM

How sad.
How can someone’s life come to such a point?

R I P

3 Athleticsfan December 18, 2010 at 8:40 AM

You would think if someone wanted to take their life they would do it somewhere more private. Not a park when some family with kids could come walking down and see a body hanging from a tree and scar a child for life with that memory.

I feel sorry for whoever the family member of this person is. I know the holiday season is hard (trust me, this is my worst ever). But taking your life solves no problems and just makes it really hard for your loved ones.

4 Mr. Mayor December 18, 2010 at 8:40 AM

no.

5 J December 18, 2010 at 8:49 AM

This is a permant solution to a temporary problem. So sad……

6 Forca Barca December 18, 2010 at 8:52 AM

yeah really Athletics Fan. What an inconsiderate despondent. Seeing a dead body hanging from a tree is a traumatic experience for an adult who’s expecting it. For a kid or random passerby, it’s just horrific.

7 Britgeekgrrl December 18, 2010 at 9:07 AM

The holidays are tough enough for mentally-stable folks. Combine holiday stress with depression and awful things can happen.

Such a shame he believed his life had reached that point.

8 MO December 18, 2010 at 9:37 AM

My condolences to this person’s family.

I realize ”real” suicidal tendencies are invisible to those closest to the victim. We need to listen harder to what people are saying and really hear what that is. And, the worst thing of all, is the fact that so many folks now a days, have no one at all, to hear them or listen to them or see their needs. God Have Mercy on this person’s soul, ……………………..how sad it is to have no hope at all.

Folks if you pray….send an extra prayer along today for this soul and the survivors, they really need us.

Mo in Claycord

9 bad December 18, 2010 at 9:37 AM

adios! rip.

10 common cents December 18, 2010 at 9:42 AM

Very sad. The holidays are a tough time for many. My condolences to his family. One doesn’t know what demons another is fighting.

11 Hangings December 18, 2010 at 9:45 AM

In the 80’s there was a hanging near Concord BART, and another outside a bank in Lafayette.

IIRC, both were African Americans.

Does anybody recall details on those (possibly) racially motivated hangings?

12 NiteMom December 18, 2010 at 9:45 AM

This park is right across from the hospital! Do you think that in a way, they think someone from there would see them to give them help verses “becoming weak” and asking for help? I am sure some people think of getting help as a sign of weakness and not a strength. RIP to this man, what a horrific thing for someone to possibly see or go through.

13 Truth Squad December 18, 2010 at 9:57 AM

If it wasn’t for these trees this never would have happened. We need to remove all of the trees from parks… but the National Arbor Society will never allow it.

14 justaguy December 18, 2010 at 9:57 AM

none of you guys should say anything about him if it was a suicide. no one here has any right to pass judgement on him we know nothing about him or his situation. he did what he did for a reason, we can’t change it nor can we justify it, so we should just leave it at that

15 justaguy December 18, 2010 at 9:59 AM

nothing hurtful or bad i mean.

16 A Witnessed Suicide? December 18, 2010 at 10:04 AM

‘Nuff said.

17 NightOwl December 18, 2010 at 10:05 AM

Oh my! I walked home through this park around 10 PM or so… I cant even imagine what i would have done if i had saw him! But he must not have been there around then, because i did not hear any noises other than the dripping of rain. I just cant beleive this happened in concord, and at that park! So close to my home!

18 JEROME December 18, 2010 at 10:09 AM

“Does anybody recall details on those (possibly) racially motivated hangings?”

We are getting sick of people like you that make everything racial.

.

19 Patrick December 18, 2010 at 10:15 AM

I can say from my own recent experience the holidays can make any personal crisis seem worse than it is. One year ago, my wife left me for a coworker. I was devastated, and the impending holidays made it so much worse. My life was saved by my best friend’s phone call as I sat on the bed with my rifle in my mouth.

Now a year later, I am in a wonderful relationship with an amazing woman who loves and adores me, and I’ve never been happier. A year ago I never imagined I would be in such a perfect place, but here I am. The point is, things WILL get better. At the time, people were telling me this and I didn’t believe it. But within a few short months, I realized my ex had done me a huge favor. Like J said above, this is a permanent solution to a very temporary problem. No matter how bad it seems, there is a better future on the horizon. And there are a lot of people who care and will listen and help.

20 Leigh December 18, 2010 at 10:32 AM

Jusaguy – You can say what you want, but this person was nothing but selfish. If you want to kill yourself, then sorry to hear that, but do it in the privacy of your own home. For someone to do this in a park where children could walk by is disgusting.

I feel sorry for the guy, for whatever he was going through that he felt was so bad that suicide was the only way out, and I’m sorry to his family who lost someone just before Christmas, but there is no excuse for hanging himself in public.

21 Always right December 18, 2010 at 10:53 AM

@hangings – The death of Timothy Lee, a Berkeley resident who was found hanging from a tree near Concord BART in 1985, was ruled to be a suicide. Threads from his clothing were found on adjacent branches, indicating he climbed the tree himself rather than being strung up.

He also had a history of issues that placed him in a demographic with a high propensity for self destructive behavior and suicide.

Of course, you will always find some people who want to stir up racial tensions by claiming it was a lynching. Facts won’t stand in the way of demagogues – they pander to those in the crowd looking for someone to validate their own ill-informed world views.

22 Concordian December 18, 2010 at 11:13 AM

“If it wasn’t for these trees this never would have happened.” #13
Are you really that stupid? I guess we should just cut down trees every where then on the account of your statement. I’m pretty sure if someone is serious about taking their own life they are going to do it whether theres a tree there or not dumbass. Btw read an article awhile back about suicide that stated men tend to find more violent ways to kill themselves (hangings,gunshot) while women tend to preserve their bodies (poisenings) and that the holidays unfortunately make depression worse for those already going through hard times, very sad.

23 Hangings December 18, 2010 at 11:20 AM

http://articles.latimes.com/1986-06-24/news/mn-21180_1_body-found-hanging-from-tree

On Nov. 2, 1985, two men in white robes assaulted black people in Concord, and later the two men were arrested and convicted for assault on the black people.

2 hours later on Nov. 2, 1985, Concord Police discover the hanging death of Timothy Lee of Berkeley.

June 24, 1986, 7-months after the Concord hanging, CoCo Sheriff found a black woman hanging in a tree near Lafayette BART outside Lloyd’s Bank.

Does anybody remember any details of these three incidents?

24 supermom December 18, 2010 at 11:31 AM

In responce to Atheleticsfan #3 and Forca Barca #6
I agree with athleticsfan, I have found a body before and it was a horrible experience that i wil never forget, but if my son were to have seen it it would ablsolutely scar him and leave a huge indent in him. He cant watch a not so scary movie without nightmares. So as i do feel terrible for the family and the deceased, who knows what he was going through it was a selfish act, and come on in a park. Hurting himself is horrible but why scar someone else is beyond me. I cant answer for anyone without walking in their shoes but when it involves another person, judgements are bound to follow.

25 EdiBirsan December 18, 2010 at 11:52 AM

One of the Container Depots I work with backs up to a park and there was a hanging suicide there that was discovered by one of the depot workers. The incident had an effect on the discoverer. We often forget that the suicide not only affects the family and associates of the deceased but often others totally unrelated.

26 streetsmart December 18, 2010 at 12:01 PM

While I won’t dispute the fact that a child or someone else seeing this incident is horrible. I would also like to point out that those of us that have spent a lot of time in Todos Santos and the surrounding areas know that there are a lot of transient veterans and transient people that sleep and move around in that area. I suspect it might have been one of them. If so.?
God rest there soul.
They might not have had a home or anywhere else to go.

27 Concenred Citizen December 18, 2010 at 12:36 PM

This is just terrible. My cocker spaniel is a very sensitive soul, and I often take him for midday strolls in that area! If he had seen this… oh my gosh I just don’t know how it would have affected him. For shame, this man was very selfish. Why couldn’t he just have killed himself in the privacy of his own house like a normal person? Probably homeless, thats why. No respect.

28 Mr. Anon E. Mouse December 18, 2010 at 12:50 PM

Very unnerving for the holiday season and in general.
RIP old guy.

29 Retired CPD December 18, 2010 at 1:16 PM

“On Nov. 2, 1985, two men in white robes assaulted black people in Concord, and later the two men were arrested and convicted for assault on the black people.”

“2 hours later on Nov. 2, 1985, Concord Police discover the hanging death of Timothy Lee of Berkeley.”

I was on CPD at the time & the 2 had nothing to do with each other.All, like myself, were pissed that punks targeted blacks like that & happy that they were taken into cuctody. All incidents in Concord were made into racial crimes & this was not the case. We had no clue at the time when the future would bring the city.

30 anonymous December 18, 2010 at 2:10 PM

My condolences to his family and friends who will, for years, wonder WHY he didn’t come to them for help, WHY they didn’t see any warning signs, WHY his life didn’t mean as much to him as he did to them…I know you have a long, hard, lonely road ahead and those not directly affected will likely expect you to “get over it” long before you’re ready to move forward. The loss of any loved one is difficult, but losing someone to suicide is more difficult than those who’ve never had to endure it can imagine. We have a wonderful resource in our area, The Contra Costa Crisis Center, and the free grief counseling I received there after losing a second family member to suicide helped immensely (800 837-1818). Peace to his family and friends, and to this poor soul who found himself so alone and hopeless.

31 Officer Barbrady December 18, 2010 at 2:33 PM

Even better, when Lee hung himself the NAACP held a press conference showing Lees credit card was used the next day, proving this was a murder and that Concord was infected with racism, blah, blah blah.

Then Concord PD had their own press conference and demonstarted that the charges were posted the day after the card was used ,as was always done.They showed the card was used by Lee prior to the suicide.

The NAACP was not heard from again. This is the general pattern of the NAACP, John Burris et al. Big spalsh, no facts, slink away when shown to be wrong..

These people are professional racists, they make a living and get attention from crying racism, police brutality etc.

32 Detective Dangle December 18, 2010 at 3:17 PM

There’s a nutter out there that confessed to his friends that he participated in one or more of the hangings.

That’s about all I can remember. Hopefully this will spark somebody to come forward with some new tips for what should have been deemed cold-cases instead of suicides. The CPD of the 70s and 80s was dominated by high school grad detectives instead of the current crop of graduate degreed Detectives.

33 Ancient Mariner December 18, 2010 at 4:30 PM

Looks like Concordian 22 just fell way down into a sar-chasm!
RIP to the unfortunate man. Comfort to his family.

34 anon December 18, 2010 at 4:40 PM

I agree that taking one’s own life, and doing so in a manner where some completely innocent person will find you is horrible. Not that anyone committing suicide is thinking rationally in the first place.
Decades ago I read of an elderly man, he had just lost his wife, he had cancer, so he drove to the coroner’s office and shot himself in the head. Still awful, but at least the coroner was the only entity that had to deal with the aftermath.

35 annon December 18, 2010 at 5:51 PM

@27..

WOW are you seriouse?? Your cocker spaniel for real? What a rude and insensitive thing to say. Does it matter if he was homeless??? Being homeless does not make you any less of a person, you should just thank God every day your not. That person was someones son, brother, grandchild,and probably father and was loved by all of them, so maybe you shouldnt write rude things for them to have to read because if it was my family or friend and someone wrote somthing stupid like that trust me I would find them and show them how I felt about them… No respect come on lady your dog would of walked right on by it wouldnt had done nothing to that dog….. Lady your 5251 you should seek help… To his family sorry about your loss may god be with you at this time

36 Annon December 18, 2010 at 5:54 PM

@27

So do you feel the same way about the woman who was brutally murdered in that park a couple of months ago? She was homeless as well. Are you really that selfish and self centered?

37 Anonymous December 18, 2010 at 6:47 PM

About 11 years ago, I lived next door to a 93-year-old couple. The husband was facing the possibility of being put into an assisted-living home, and that was not okay with him.

One summer morning, my children, then 11 and 6, were in the backyard playing with a 4-year-old friend when we heard sirens and noticed fire trucks arriving at the couple’s home. I went to check on the neighbors, went to their backyard and saw the husband lying on the ground. The wife had asked me to leave. Her husband had hung himself from the covered patio just on the other side of the fence from where my children were playing. Thankfully, I did not see him until after the rope had been cut, and he was lying on the ground. I thanked God for a very long time that my children did not happen to look through the cracks of the fence at any time to see what was going on. I believe it could have scarred them for life.

The wife had to sell the home, and go to live with her abusive daughter. She was relatively healthy, but died about a year later of a broken heart.

38 Chazz December 18, 2010 at 6:59 PM

I don’t think a dog’s psyche would be hurt by that. You people who think your dogs are human need a lot of help.

39 annonymous December 18, 2010 at 7:00 PM

Through early morning fog I see
Visions of the things to be,
The pains that are withheld for me,
I realize and I can see…

That suicide is painless,
It brings on many changes
And I can take or leave it if I please.

The game of life is hard to play,
I’m going to loose it anyway,
The loosin’ card I’ll someday lay;
So this is all I have to say…

That suicide is painless,
It brings on many changes
And I can take or leave it if I please.

The only way to win is cheat
And lay it down before I’m beat
And to another give my seat
For that’s the only painless feat.

That suicide is painless,
It brings on many changes
And I can take or leave it if I please.
And you can do the same thing if you please.

40 Cowellian December 18, 2010 at 7:28 PM

We really don’t know what stresses the man was facing, or what drove him to this tragic act. So we are in no position to judge this man.

We are, however, free to judge his actions.

Any act of suicide (or attempted suicide) that deliberately involves other people, especially children, is evil. Period. End of story.

I took a lot of flack a couple of years ago, when I said that about the young man that killed himself in front of a school. I was told that we should have compassion since we didn’t know his mental state. His mental state is irrelevant.The act is evil! I’ll save my concerns for his victims, especially the children.

41 Annon December 18, 2010 at 7:35 PM

@27

So would you have had to take your dog in for couseling? Do you know any good pet theropist because I think my goldfish needs help! About a week ago when I went to go feed my fish Goldie was floating at the top, although they were in seperate fish bowls it really has affected Fishey he has not been the same since and I think he needs some help. Any suggestions

42 annonymous December 18, 2010 at 8:49 PM

All suicides affect someone. The relative who asks “could I have done something if I had only known”. The inconsiderate “victim” who blows his brains out in the house, and now the family (having to witness and then clean up) can never go into that part of the house again without the image touching them. That is why a lot of suicides are done in public places. The worst it the people who jump in front of a train. Wow. I have seen a lot of these.

Just don’t hang yourself in the garage so the family sees it when they come home and press the up button on the door.

43 Atticus Thraxx December 18, 2010 at 9:58 PM

Who knows what demons weave through a person’s mind. But hanging ain’t no way to go. I’m thinking big ass explosion. Kind that leaves a crater. Don’t worry Cowellian, I can’t find a pedophile group meeting to do it at, I’ll find someplace safely distant.

44 Concordian December 18, 2010 at 10:30 PM

Ancient Mariner #33
“Looks like Concordian #22 just fell way down into a sar-chasm!”
A sar-chasim? WTF are you talking about is that even a word? If you have something to write, write it in plain english moron. Maybe then I can reply to your comment.

45 tiny December 18, 2010 at 10:55 PM

My neighbor is a retired fire fighter and vet. He can remember every call of a suicide he went on and to this day has some nightmares over them. The ones that affect him the greatest are the children, yes children do this to. He tells me after 29 years of work you would think you would be hardened but everyone affects you differently. RIP in the open arms of our heavenly father.

46 anonamom December 18, 2010 at 10:57 PM

Ancient Mariner: I thought it was kind of clever of you! Nice play on words.

47 Ancient Mariner December 18, 2010 at 11:41 PM

A sar-chasm is the vast gulf (i.e. chasm) that lies between the maker of sarcastic wit and the person who just … doesn’t … get it.

OK, in plain English (since you asked, Concordian No. 44), this is what I believe Truth Squad No. 13 was commenting on (TC13, correct me if I’ve got it wrong) :

There are some people (usually very well-meaning people) who want to ban things whenever they are used to cause harm in an individual case, regardless of the efficacy of the measure on such crimes as a whole and regardless of whether it is right to do so. For example: if someone is murdered with a 12-gauge shotgun, the do-gooders will call for the banning of all 12-gauge shotguns (easier and more satisfying to the ego than creating a law-abiding society through education, social justice, the teaching of right and wrong, etc.) Politicians feel that they have “done something” to check the 12-gauge menace against the voters.
But next year, someone is murdered with a 20-gauge shotgun. Solution? Simple: ban all 20-gauge shotguns.
Then we work through all the various calibers until all firearms are abolished.
Unfortunately, the following week someone is robbed at knifepoint. OK, now we outlaw private possession of knives.
If someone is stabbed with a screwdriver, laws will be passed to prevent the carrying of tools in public.
Perhaps someone wearing a hoodie robs a bank. Now the hoodies have to be illegal.
And so it goes. Until one day we find ouselves outlawing totally irrelevant things such as color of clothes (e.g. red / blue gang colors) because it’s easier than addressing the root causes of the problem and teaching people to be upright.
Truth Squad No. 13 was using sarcasm to illustrate this do-gooding, “ban-everything that could ever possibly be harmful” mentality. He was not seriously suggesting the removal of the trees. He was taking a swing at the gun-control faction.

48 rocketfirered December 18, 2010 at 11:53 PM

I stopped reading most of the posts on this because it makes me upset. Anyway, my aunt is homeless and she chooses to be because she has many other options. Anyway, she hangs out in this park most of the time. She knew the man that hung himself. He was homeless too. So the options for him to do this in a more private place wasn’t much of an option. He loved that park, maybe thats why he wanted to die in it.

49 Pleasant Jenny December 19, 2010 at 12:11 AM

Bad decision: yes. Bad discussion: yes.

50 Some Guy December 19, 2010 at 1:11 AM

I’ve had a few people I know kill themselves over my lifetime. Sometimes you see the signs, sometimes they hide it pretty well. I always figured it was something that built up until you couldn’t deal with it any more. But as I found out. That’s not always the case.
My friend went off the rails last summer, left a wife and young kids. Great guy. He never did anything but help people his entire life. He knew the devastation this would cause his family and friends and chose to do it anyway? Doesn’t sound like him. Now the only answer I can find is, sometimes maybe there’s a short in the wiring. You wake up, and for some reason, today, what you normally couldn’t comprehend becomes a mission you have to complete. I miss him, but don’t kid myself any one could have seen it coming, or stopped him once he got rolling. Maybe the guy in the park was in the park when he shorted out. If he shorted out enough to think killing himself was a good idea. I wouldn’t expected him to have clear thoughts about anything else. including who would find him. we can silently be thankful that In his shorted state of mind he physically harmed only himself.
My condolences to all involved :(

51 Concerned Citizen December 19, 2010 at 2:21 AM

Hey guys. Wow there is a lot of hostility here! I’m not the one that hung himself in public for all to see. I think your anger is directed at the wrong person!

First, let me say that yes Corky is a VERY sensitive soul. I don’t think it’s very funny the way some of you have made fun of him or us. He is our child, and as intelligent as any of your brats. If he had seen that disgusting homeless man hanging from that tree… ugh… i really hate to think what he would’ve have done or thought. I don’t think he’d ever be the same again!

Secondly, I feel bad for this man’s family, specially in light of how rude and selfish he was to do such a terrible thing were people walk their animals and children! Now they are the ones that have to live with the shame! This is all very terrible.

Thirdly, I don’t have anything against homeless people… but let’s face it: most of them are disgusting and very rude. This is ample proof of that, but if you need more just volunteer at a soup kitchen sometime! I did once, and ok I understand if you are homeless, but if you are coming to get a meal in a PUBLIC place that’s going to be filled with people…. take a shower!!!!! Dont’ come in smelling terrible and making people uncomfortable!! Ugh!

52 anon December 19, 2010 at 6:43 AM

I’m in my 40’s and I’ve been suicidal off and on since my teens! I hide it really well. The only thing that holds me back is the devastation I would cause to my wife, family and friends/co-workers. If I was single, I would have done it years ago!!!

53 Cowellian December 19, 2010 at 8:50 AM

Sarchasm is a great word!

And Atticus, thank you for your thoughtful consideration.
;)

54 Not a Joking Matter December 19, 2010 at 9:45 AM

Two blondes were in a bar watching the television when the news came on. It showed a guy on a bridge that was about to jump, obviously suicidal. “I’ll bet you $10 he’ll jump,” said Betty.

“Bet you $10 he won’t,” replied Amber. Then, the guy on the television closed his eyes and threw himself off the bridge. The second blonde hands the first her money.

“I can’t take your money,” said Betty. “I cheated you. The same story was on the five o’clock news.”

“No, no. Take it,” said Amber. “I saw the five o’clock news too. I just didn’t think the guy was dumb enough to jump again!”

55 Liz December 19, 2010 at 9:58 AM

I can’t believe some of the callous remarks on here..”oh how selfish to do that in the park” or “should have done it in the privacy of his home”….for shame on you people. No one does if he suffered from depression/mental illness, no one knows the circumstances of his life, no one knows if he was married or had children. But one thing we do know, he was a human being who at that last moments of his life felt so desperate and helpless that he couldn’t clearly see any other way out. May his soul RIP.

56 Getfit December 19, 2010 at 8:35 PM

Seriously, people! To refer to this poor man as “selfish” and saying that he should have done this in a private place is just ridiculous!! Do you really think he was in the right state-of-mind to consider others?? OBVIOUSLY, he was in a mental place none of us can understand and to expect someone with such desperation to “think things out” is expecting too much.

Of course, I agree, that anyone who would have found this body would have been left with some trauma but what has to be understood is that if he had the sense to not be “selfish” while committing such a senseless act like suicide, he probably would NOT have done it at all

57 toni December 19, 2010 at 10:30 PM

I think some are forgetting the comment area is for people to disccuss *their* personal feelings about a incident that happened in their community. I do think there are some mean-spirited ones re this post but I don’t think it is fair to call people heartless for voicing their oppinion. I am refering to the people who thought he was selfish to do in a public place. Suicide is a selfish decision. Yes, a life was lost and it is so sad that he had no other outlet other than suicide, but in a park where children could have seen him and someone that lives in the neighborhood had to find him like that? IMO I think it was. To the people blasting the commenters who were saying it was selfish please take a moment to think what if it was your kid or wife or family member who discovered this person? I think you may view it differently.

It is sad matter no matter how you look at it.

58 I Care December 19, 2010 at 10:51 PM

To All of the Anon #52’s (6:43am):
Take a moment to read Patrick (#19)’s post. (Good for you, Patrick!! And Thank You for sharing.) :)
Seeking help can, and does make a difference. You can make an anonymous phone call if it makes you feel more comfortable. Another option is to tell the counselor you have a friend who is depressed and you’d like to know what you can do to help? It’s one phone call, much easier than you think. 1-800-273-talk, or 1-800-784-2433 = 24 hours/day–because people do care! Your life IS worth living to the fullest. Your family and friends think so, too.

I look forward to hearing you made the call. The relief WILL give you a new outlook on life!

p.s. Tell me how proud you are of yourself for taking that first step. :)

59 Concordian December 19, 2010 at 11:24 PM

Oh yes how silly of me not to recognize the “sar-chasm” of that unneccesary statement.

60 df December 20, 2010 at 1:03 AM

concerned citizen;
do you really think its as easy for a homeless person to get a shower as it is for you? Do you think they walk about 4 feet down a hall way and take out nice clean towels and have a nice warm clean shower with soap and shampoo, etc.? Whatever happened to walking in someone’s shoes? Do you think everyone on earth has the same mental state and thinks the same as you? How do you know he didnt have real mental problems? You sound like you dont know the first thing about mental problems. #1 A person with ‘real’ depression, not just the blues, often doesnt have the emotional strength to deal with the simplest things like getting a shower. #2 Someone commiting suicide is obviously unbalanced and unable to think clear. Expecting some like this to act right, and be considerate is ridiculous. #3 Speaking of mental problems it sounds like you have boundary issues as far as where you end and your dog starts. I believe animals are sensitive, if the dog is reacting it is probably to your emotion.
You might want to get that checked with a therapist it sounds like a deeper problem. Seriously, when I read your first comment I did think you were kidding.

61 SurvivorChild December 20, 2010 at 11:44 AM

I’m the survivor of a parent that committed suicide. And although yes, it was selfish of him to leave us without thinking of the impact it had on his children. I can also say he was not in a clear state of mind. There were no warnings…no cries for help. He had a bad night, and made a split second decision that will stick with my siblings and I for the rest of ours. He doesn’t get to know his grandchildren. He wasn’t there for graduation. It hurts more than anyone can ever know. BUT think about this…obviously he had a lot of hurting that none of us thought or knew about. So although yes this gentleman should have thought before doing such an act in a family place like a park, chances are…he wasn’t really thinking, so it would be wrong of us to point fingers and make judgements when we have no idea the kind of hurt and pain one might be going through. My dad was an amazing father, an amazing friend, son, brother, teacher…but he made one wrong decision. I just pray that God has mercy on certain circumstances and can weigh out the good and the bad…

62 SAR December 20, 2010 at 4:27 PM

@ Concordian #22

Did someone really have to explain to you about your dumb-a$$ reply to a sarcastic comment? Who’s the moron?

P.S. Sorry about the “plain english” (TARD)

63 dlee December 22, 2010 at 8:50 AM

I feel sorry for those snobby self righteous folks who tend to think they would never be in a “homeless” situation, and therefore make faces, say stupid remarks and even point at the homeless person on the corner, or wherever
they encounter him/her. This world is full of this type of people, who foolishly
believe that they are above the less fortunate, and since I moved here to Clayton 6 years ago, I have had my share of you snobs.
I pass you on my walks and you find it hard to even say “hello,” or
even smile back, I have opened the door for you going in or out of the store,
and “thank you”, isn’t said, and that is such a shame. You see I cannot understand why you are so! rude, I mean I have watched some of you drive off in expensive fancy cars, I live on the same street as some of you, and your
homes leave a person awe struck, because of it’s beauty.
It doesn’t hurt me the least that you have no manners or friendly nature, but it does bother me that my 4 year old son questions it.
I t is obvious that MONEY!!! cannot buy happiness, and sometimes too much of it can be the leading cause for the attitude, and rudeness.
It’s funny that you think you would never be in a situation as being homeless or
in desperate need as many people are, funny that you think tomorrow is promised and God does not exist, wake up and smell some Petes coffee,
cause you need to watch how you treat those on the bottom as you were
climbing to the top, cause uh? those same people will be the ones you see
when you come back down.. And try and spread some Christmas cheer, and don’t forget “It’s Christs’ Birthday”
Merry Christmas .

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